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  %CONSEQUENCE MOTIVATION OBJECTIVE BEHAVIOR DECIDE 900625

     The  consequences  of  our  actions  flow  from   our
motivations,    as  well  as  from  our  overt   objective
behaviors.

     It  is dishonest to pretend that we can  control  our
own and other peoples's behaviors,  emotions, perceptions,
and  thoughts so that consequences always flow  just  from
objective   behavior,   and  never  from  intentions   and
motivations which are not objective in character.

     Such  pretense  is  often motivated by  a  desire  to
effectively play games of mutual self deception in keeping
with   the   attitudes   and  beliefs   of   addicts   and
codependents.

     The  whole belief system of addicts and  codependents
is  predicated  upon the possibility of  manipulating  the
external environment to  meet  all internal  needs.   Such
manipulation   must  of  necessity   involve   dishonesty,
deception, pretense, and misleading behavior---the success
of which all depends upon hiding the motivations from  the
people who are being manipulated.   It is assumed that  it
is  possible  to  engage  in  objective  behaviors   which
manipulate   effectively  by  virtue  of  concealing   the
personal motivations of the objective behaviors.

     Such  an assumption flies in the face of the  ability
of children to see  right  through such deceptive efforts,
and  to  read the motivations of the actors like  an  open
book.

     The  reality is that people often are aware  of  each
other's  motivations,  even though there are no  objective
pieces of evidence to which they can point in a scientific
way to justify their perceptions.   Only people who do not
want  to know each other's motivations are  systematically
unaware of each other's motivations.   Only people who are
active  participants  in  games of mutual  self  deception
succeed  in keeping themselves unaware of what each  other
is  trying to do;  deception of this sort always entails a
significant  amount of cooperative self deception.    Such
deception  is not so much due to manipulations of  others,
as it is due to manipulations  of  self's  perceptions and
the lack of self perceptions.

     The   success  of  collusions  is  due  to  reflexive
behaviors; not due to objective behaviors.  Scientists who
act   as   though  the  success  of  their   programs   of
manipulation  depend only upon objective behaviors without
regard  for  the  reflexive  motivations and behaviors  of
participants,  are themselves  participants  in  collusive
games of self deception.  Only those who are participating
in such games fail to see what is happening.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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