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We bad people have been rejected all of our lives because we have not been acceptable people, so we must perfect ourselves to become acceptable people. We must achieve the kind of control which is essential to being acceptable. To be free we must be free to know ourselves. We cannot be true to ourselves unless we honestly know ourselves. We must know how we feel about our experiences and be able to express our feelings openly and honestly; else we cannot know our true selves and cannot be true to our selves. "Good" people do good things. Bad people do bad things. Evil people are particularly bad people who do not try hard enough to be "good". To be acceptable we must try very hard to overcome our inherent evil tendencies. We must figure out what we must do to be "good" and acceptable. We must be very attentive to what people expect of us, and work hard to fulfill other people's expectations. Only then can we be "good" acceptable people. To enjoy intimate relationships we must be free to be open and honest with others about who we really are and who they really are. To be intimate with each other is to be honest with each other. We cannot be intimate with each other if we cannot be honest with our self. If we are preoccupied with rules which tell us what we must do at all costs, then we must pay the price of being dishonest when such rules conflict with our being our own true self. We do not want to pay the price of loss of the possibility of true intimacy, so we are not preoccupied with rules which tell us what we must do. Some people are undisciplined and unreliable. You cannot count on them to live well ordered lives. They behave in unexpected ways which threaten the law and order which is essential to a civilized society. They do not show proper respect for rules, principles, morality, ethics and all the other foundations of civilization. Such non-conformists must be taught how, where and when to conform; they must be educated to appreciate rules of good conduct, and to know what is really true and what is really false. Such knowledge must be taught by teachers who have been properly trained. Ignorant people cannot properly be expected to know the truth without assistance from those with authority and certificates to teach. The foundations of civility are built in open and honest intimacy within families where members of the families respect each other as separate unique persons in their own rights. Civility has to do with seeking to learn the truth about each person in their unique identity and freedom to be themselves with integrity. To know someone honestly we must give them the right and security to know themselves honestly, to know the truths about how they feel and think about their own experiences. The foundations of security are to be preserved through the preservation of the orders and rules which regulate the well regulated community. Anything which threatens the rule of law and order threatens our security. Anyone who questions our good rules and laws is a threat to our security. Anyone who trusts the enemy in any way is a threat to our security. Everyone must express solidarity with our community or it will be threatened and may fall in the conflict between our good society and the evil empire which stands ready to destroy us. To be true to ourselves we must give the gift of security to those who least trust us. Only when they feel secure in our gift can we get to know them and they get to know us. Only with our mutual gifts of security and trust can we get to know each other, and cooperate with each other in ways which win for us all the joy and peace we seek with serenity. The risks involved in such seeking are minimized by our gifts of security and trust. In serenity we may honestly seek to know each other. To achieve security we must always be on the defensive. We must build more and better weapons of defense than the evil empire builds. To be secure we must be willing to make all the sacrifices needed, and to give our lives in the defense of what we hold dear. God is on our side because we are good people. God will undermine the efforts of the evil empire because God is stronger than the forces of evil within the evil empire. The battle will be great and in the service of good we may win acceptability through our willingness to make great sacrifices. To survive we must be willing to give up temporary pleasures and defend those who are near and dear to us. Those who died in defending our freedoms are honored and will always be honored. They were accepted. If we are like them and willing to use all our nuclear weapons as planned, we will be accepted. We are accepted by people who give us the freedom to be open and honest with them; by people who are more interested in getting to know us as we really are, than in defending their own or others' conception of what is good, proper, legal, respectable or acceptable. To enjoy their acceptance we must be willing to be open and honest with them; and to accept their acceptance of us as we really are. We cannot enjoy their acceptance of us if we are preoccupied with earning it, or paying for it. It is futile for us to defend who we are in an effort to achieve acceptability from people who cannot accept us as we are now. The thought of people having a real freedom to make personal choices which are expressive of their true identity and individuality elicits great fear in the hearts and minds of participants in collusive games of mutual self deception. Such freedom is a threat to such dishonest games; the dishonest rules of the games might be revealed for what they are. Such freedom is intolerable and must be repressed in secret ways. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================