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 %IRRITABLE ANGRY RESENT VIOLENT REVENGE ADDICT WAR 900516

     People who are seeking to be in control of that which
they  cannot  control are systematically disappointed  day
after  day after day.   The more they fail to achieve  the
control that they think  that they should and can achieve,
the  more  irritable,   angry,   resentful,   violent  and
revengeful they are likely to become; and willing to go to
war against those whom they perceive to be responsible for
their projected frustrations.

     It is  not  safe to regard with  indifference   those
people who are seeking to be in control;  even if they are
not seeking to control you in particular.  Such people are
in the long term a threat to everyone around them,  and to
themselves.   Their  addictive personality dooms  them  to
precipitating in many tragic conflicts which  will lead to
much  violence   and  the perpetuation and growth  of  the
number of conflicts.

     It will not be integrative to engage in battles  with
those  who  seek to be in control;  for  any  manipulative
confrontation  and  attempt  to  control  them  will  only
heighten their resolve to try harder to be in control with
more   sophisticated   technologies.   They  need  to   be
confronted with the truth; the truth about their addictive
attitudes,    assumptions, convictions,   ideals,  values,
and   behaviors.   The  confrontation with  the  truth  is
essential,  but it must be as  charitable  as is possible.
Even  a  most  charitable confrontation will be terrifying
to them, for it is bound to destroy their world view which
is the only source they see for security;  flawed as their
view  is.  They need to experience an  alternative  source
for    true   security  which  is  the  freedom   to    be
vulnerable.      Taking advantage of their   vulnerability
will   not   teach  them  about   true security.   Only  a
truly charitable approach can do that.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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