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%ADDICTIVE PERSONALITY SECURITY VULNERABLE FEAR JOY 900504

     The addictive  personality is not familiar with   and
has not accepted security as the freedom to be  vulnerable
within   an  environment  over  which  control  cannot  be
achieved.   Often  addictive persons have not been offered
security in the context of vulnerability.  Other addictive
persons  have  refused to accept such offers because  they
are misled by misbeliefs regarding the nature of security.

     The addictive person  is the victim of the  misbelief
that   to  enjoy security one  must  achieve   and  retain
control   through  appropriate  defensive  measures.   The
environment  is  perceived as essentially  unfriendly  and
security is to be achieved by defensive achievements which
successfully deal with external threats to one's security.

     The addictive  person cannot conceive  of   accepting
security   as  a  gift  without  engaging   in   defensive
manipulations.    The addictive person cannot conceive  of
security  based  more  upon  personal  trust,   than  upon
personal  achievements.   The addictive person  is  always
tired  and  irritable,  because the  addictive  person  is
constantly  on guard and fearful that  defensive  measures
are inadequate, imperfect.

     In some dim way the addictive person knows that  full
control of all aspects of one's environment is impossible;
and  manipulative security is impossible in the absence of
full control.  Thus the addictive person is always fearful
that  their  inadequacy in manipulative skills and  powers
will   leave  a  crack  in  their  armor  and  leave  them
vulnerable.

     Addictive  persons do not know how to  be  themselves
with  serenity in the face of an uncontrolled environment.
They  do not know how to respond to uncontrolled  elements
of  their  environment,  and wish they had the ability  to
control  each element which they fear may  threaten  them.
Their  serenity  is  not rooted in being  themselves  with
integrity in honest responses to their environment.   They
seek  security  in  being  in  perfect  control  of  their
environment.

     Addicts believe that the threats which they  perceive
in  fact   exist   outside of themselves,   but  many   of
their  fears  are rooted in  their  misbeliefs  about  the
nature  of  real security and how it   may   be   enjoyed.
They   need  to  seek   to   discover that the roots    of
their   tensions,  apprehensions,    strains  and stresses
originate as much in their misbeliefs,   as  in   external
circumstances and realities.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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