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  %MISLEADING SELF TALK MISTAKEN ADDICTIVE PARADIGM 900503

     We   are  often misled by our self-talk,  by how   we
talk to  ourselves  about ourselves and about  our   basic
conception  of  what and who we are.     In  self-talk  we
cannot   be    objective,     for   all    self-talk    is
reflexive,    self-referential.   If our self-talk  is  in
keeping  with  addictive paradigms we are  bound   to   be
mislead and make  repeated mistakes.

     If self-talk  is focused upon self  justification  we
are   bound   to  be mislead by  our  failures   to   deal
honestly with mistakes made and attributed to others.

     If self-talk   is focused upon self defense  we   are
bound  to  be lead into alienating ourselves  from  others
from whom we might  learn   how  to   escape our addictive
paradigms and the  paradigms'    tendencies  to  lead   us
into  repeated mistakes.

     If our   self-talk is focused upon self    pity    we
are   bound   to    convince   ourselves   that   we   are
essentially  victims   without  power   to take  care   of
ourselves  in healthy  ways; so our self-talk of self pity
leads  us into being dependent  upon  others  who   should
wisely care less  for us  than  we  do ourselves.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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