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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %EVASIVE PRETENDING HYPOTHETICAL ABSTRACT QUESTIONS 900405 Often people avoid dealing with their own real situation in life by being preoccupied with the issues involved in dealing with somebody else's situation in life. They do not really have to deal with the other person's situation, and so can avoid the consequences of any hypothetical decisions they arrive at. Hypothetical decisions are not as risky as real decisions which call for real action and real consequences. Thus many people prefer to deal with hypothetical situations rather than their own real situations. People often give to others advice which they have generated by asking themselves hypothetical questions about what the other persons should do. Such unsolicited advice is rarely welcome, but it serves the purpose of helping the advisor keep the advisor's mind off the advisor's dilemmas. Often scholarly people ask themselves and their students hypothetical questions which serve the purpose of keeping the discussion at an abstract level which scholarly people can deal with comfortably. It is much less embarrassing to deal with hypothetical abstract questions, than to deal with the ever present real dilemmas in the lives of scholars and their students. Thus they avoid risky personal intimacy. Sometimes people insist that others respond to hypothetical questions which are of no interest to those who are asked to respond. The people who so insist may want to be in control in the manner of the addict who attempts to appear to be in control in dishonest ways. Such apparent control of discussion by means of hypothetical questions serves to keep the discussion from drifting towards really dealing with the real dilemmas which face the participants in the discussion. People who eagerly participate in such discussions are in the process of creating a collusion within which their real dilemmas will be defined not to exist; and will apparently not exist, will be unknown. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================