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     We  create  dilemmas  when we lead  each  other  into
pretending to be other than human;  by being unwilling  to
accept  fundamentally  human  characteristics  of  others:
limitations,    imperfections,    weaknesses,    passions,
emotions,   ignorance,   incompetence,   doubt,   fatigue,
diversity, individuality, etc.

     When  we  fail  to accept  such  fundamentally  human
characteristics in authentic dialogue,  we lead each other
into  pretending  to be other than we are;  we  lead  each
other  into  non-authentic,   dishonest,    disintegrative
behavior. We become participants in collusions, addictions
and codependent support networks.

     Our   salvation   does  not   reside   in   technical
considerations  which involve manipulations and  coercions
on the way to achievements which are essential to personal
salvation.  Such a way does violence to self,  others  and
the  truth  in efforts to  achieve  acceptability.   Being
considerate is not being technical, but rather consists of
being in authentic dialogue with authentic humans who  are
being  themselves;  not acting as if they were other  than
human.

     When we refuse to be ourselves in authentic  dialogue
with   real  humans  we  end  up  seeking  for   approval,
permission, affirmation, acceptance, selection, etc., from
humans,  who are not real, not authentic,  and not honest.
We  end up being actors on the stage of a  dramatic  farce
which is tragic in its futility;  and we do not even  know
that  we have chosen to be dishonest actors,  rather  than
ourselves.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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