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        %BEING CHARGE CONTROL CONSEQUENCES BEHAVIOR 891223

Being  in  charge  is a mode of being;  one  in  which  an
attempt  is  made to control the consequences of  people's
thoughts, feelings,  and behaviors.  People who are trying
to be in charge on their own authority try very hard,  but
achieve  little  satisfaction,   and  have  few  authentic
friends. It is nearly impossible to be an authentic friend
to  someone  who  is  trying to be in charge  of  how  you
perceive  them,  feel about them,  think about them,   and
behave towards them!

     You  cannot be authentically yourself while  you  are
trying to be in charge; for to be in charge you must be in
charge  of  your  own self and conform your  own  self  to
whatever  conception is called for by your  conception  of
what  it is to be properly in charge.  This  is  confusing
because  if is not then clear who is in charge of your own
self,  who is supposed to be in charge of others.  Who  is
ultimately in charge?  What is in charge? Why?  What sense
does it make?
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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