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 %REFLECT COERCE VIOLENT REPRESS PRETENSE INTEGRITY 891013

     Any attempt to coerce self into being other than what
self   can  be  with  integrity,   is  bound  to  lead  to
disintegration;   whether  through  pretense  or   through
repression.

     In repression one is pretending not to be what one in
reality might be with integrity.

     In  pretense  one  is pretending to be  what  one  in
reality is not, and cannot be with integrity.

     In  both  pretense  and  repression  there  is   self
violence  in  that  there is self coercion  in  trying  to
appear  to  be  what one in reality is  not.   Doing  such
violence to oneself is disintegrative, just as cutting off
one's hand is disintegrative.

     The  work  of  Love is to  facilitate  reconciliation
where there is alienation and disintegration; authenticity
where  there  is pretense and repression.  People who  are
authentically  in  Love  facilitate  reconciliation  where
there is separation and alienation, honesty where there is
deception, openness where there is secrecy, security where
there  is  defensiveness,   and  healing  where  there  is
coercion and disease.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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