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 %ADDICTS DISHONEST MEANS CONTROL PERSONAL BEHAVIOR 890627

     Addicts  believe that salvation is to be achieved  by
some  form  of manipulative control.   When  one  form  of
manipulative   attempts  at  gaining  control  to  achieve
salvation  does not work,  the addict tries another method
of trying to achieve control.

     Salvation has to do with inter-personal relationships
so  the  addict  is confronted with the  need  to  control
inter-personal relationships.   Such relationships  cannot
be  controlled in terms of the same kind of understanding,
manipulation  and method of control which work in  dealing
with  impersonal objects.   The addict thus needs means to
control which are suitable to dealing with  inter-personal
relationships.

     The  addict  seeks to control human  behavior.    The
addict can see that human behavior flows from perceptions,
impressions,  feelings,  desires, fears, etc.   Thus it is
clear to the addict that what is needed is means by  which
to control perceptions,  impressions,  feelings,  desires,
fears,   etc.   The addict seeks to learn how  to  control
people's  perceptions,  impressions,  feelings,   desires,
fears, etc.   Since such control is of ultimate importance
to the addict, it is of no great concern that the means to
such   control  involve  systemic  dishonesty.     Through
systematically   dishonest   manipulation   of    people's
perceptions,  impressions, feelings, desires, fears,  etc.
the   addict  seeks  to  achieve  salvation  through   the
dishonest manipulation of other people.

     Because  the  addict's behavior  involves  systematic
dishonesty  the  behavior leads to personal  and  communal
disintegration which reaches into the lives of all  people
who interact with the addict in any significant way.   The
addict's  whole  life  is  systematically  dishonest   and
involves  getting  other people to join in the  systematic
pattern of dishonest behavior to make it appear normal. To
fail  to confront and reveal the dishonestly of the addict
is to be drawn into a web of systematic dishonestly.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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