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    %DETACH ADDICTIVE BEHAVIOR CONSEQUENCES CONFUSE 890608

     Addicts  cannot reasonably be expected to quit  their
addictive  patterns of behavior so long as it is not clear
to  them  what  are the consequences  of  their  addictive
patterns of behavior.

     An  essential  ingredient of  addictive  behavior  is
confusion.    The  behavior of the addicts'   codependents
which contributes to keeping the addict confused about the
consequences  of  addictive behavior,  is  a  contributing
factor in maintaining addictive patterns of behavior. Each
time  a  codependent sacrificially rescues an addict  from
feeling  the  consequences  of addictive  behavior,   that
rescue   helps   keep  the  addict  confused   about   the
connections between attitudes, decisions, actions, etc. on
the one hand and the natural consequences which flow  from
them on the other.

     Not  even  intelligent  people  can  learn  to   cope
effectively  if  those  nearest and dearest  to  them  are
constantly   confusing  them  regarding  the   connections
between   decisions/actions  and   natural   consequences.
Rescues which confuse people regarding the consequences of
their  decisions/actions do not encourage people to  learn
how to behave wisely.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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