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    %BEING RESPONSIBLE EMBARRASS PRETENSE COLLUSIVE 890318

     An  embarrassment has to do with the exposure of that
which the embarrassed persons would prefer to keep hidden:
ignorance,  pretense, arrogance, deception,  mis-leadings,
weakness, vulnerability, etc.

     Often  the embarrassed person regards another  person
as  primarily  responsible  for  the  embarrassment.   The
embarrassed  person often acts as if they had a  right  to
keep  hidden that which upon revelation has caused them to
be  embarrassed.   To them the person who  occasioned  the
revelation    is   the   person   responsible   for    the
embarrassment.

     The  responsibility  for embarrassment  lies  heavily
with the person(s)  who has (have)  maintained  ignorance,
pretense,  arrogance, deception, mis-leadings, etc.  Those
who  lack integrity seek to hide their lack of  integrity,
and bear responsibility for their efforts to be coherently
deceptive.

     Those  who  enjoy integrity bear  responsibility  for
exercising  their  freedom  and power charitably  as  they
confront  others  who are engaged in  collusive  games  of
mutual  self deception.  Such confrontations are bound  to
entail  embarrassment.   Ideally such  embarrassment  will
occur   only   within   contexts   of   security   wherein
vulnerability   and  security  are  mutually   compatible.
Embarrassment  within  the context of such  love  promotes
growth,   rather than defensiveness and intensification of
efforts to conceal.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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