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    %ESCAPE COLLUSION ADDICT DEPEND TABOO GUILT SIN 890226

     To enjoy personal and communal integrity members of a
community  need  to  escape the  dis-ease  of  collusions,
addictions,  codependence, taboos,  guilt,  shame and sin.
These  realities are intimately inter-related.  To  escape
their   dis-ease  people  must  know  and  understand  the
dynamics  by which these realities undermine personal  and
communal integrity.

     These  realities cannot  be transcended by the use of
violence,   coercion,   manipulation,   and   manipulative
technologies.

     They   can  not  be  transcended  through   trickery,
deception, secrecy, or misleading communications.

     Because the realities are fundamentally not objective
in  character  it  is not possible to  cure  the  diseases
primarily  through  the  use  of  objective  research   by
scientists  and  other technically  competent  specialists
with narrow foci of attention and concern.

     No  person can force another person to behave in ways
which will transcend the diseases.

     It  is  important to learn to  transcend  taboos  and
leading collusive games of mutual self deception;  and the
guilt  and shame which are generated by failures  to  play
the games properly.  Yet such transcendence does not  come
by  way  of  those who have "transcended"   the  games  by
tricking  or coercing others to violate the rules  of  the
games.

     The  essence  of transcendence is not to be found  in
doing  violence to the rules of the disintegrative  games.
Just  violating the rules will only intensify the  defense
of  the rules on the part of the people who are not  ready
to  transcend the games and recover personal and  communal
integrity.   Yet,  transcendence and recovery will  entail
profound violations of the rules of the games.

     To  transcend  the diseases it is essential to do  so
with  personal integrity exercised freely and with a basic
understanding of the possible consequences.  The violation
of  disintegrative  rules is integrative behavior  if  and
only  if  it is guided and motivated by considerations  of
personal   and   communal  integrity.    The   integrative
violations  come  through focusing honestly  upon  ideals,
values, principles, and priorities which in essential ways
transcend  those  of  the collusive games of  mutual  self
deception.

     Transcendence     does    not   come   by    focusing
judgmentally upon participants in the diseased behavior as
evil people;  but by focusing upon the inadequacies of the
ideas,  ideals,  values,  principles and priorities  which
guide  and  motivate trapped people.   The  disintegrative
conflicts exist primarily among those considerations which
lead  the trapped people;  for the trapped people are  the
incarnations of those inherent primary conflicts. Coercion
of  or violence done to the trapped people will in no  way
resolve  the  conflicts  which  exist  among  the  primary
considerations which lead and motivate the people who  are
trapped.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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