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            %CODEPENDENT ADDICTIVE RESCUE HELP LOVE 881229

     Help is not always helpful.    Help which  encourages
people  to neglect to take proper care of  themselves   is
not   helpful.     When  people  neglect to  take   proper
care    of   themselves   one   can   not  help  them   by
compensating     for   their    neglect,       for    such
compensation  will  encourage further neglect.

     People  who  neglect to take care of  themselves   as
well    as  they can,  need to be encouraged to  recognize
and   to come to terms with the consequences of their  own
neglect,  and    to   acknowledge   their   responsibility
for   those consequences.

     There  are no technical fixes by which to take   care
of  people  who  fail to take care  of  themselves.     No
technology   can  compensate  for  their  neglect.      No
governmental  program will  compensate for private neglect
to  care  for  self  in a way which  is  helpful  to   the
neglected persons.

     Students  who neglect to attend to their studies need
to learn to recognize the consequences of their   neglect,
they   do  not  need added technology to assure  that they
learn their lessons in spite of their neglect.

     People who get ill because they do not take care   of
themselves  do not need new drugs  and  machines,     they
need a  new set of attitudes and a new  communal   context
which    encourages   them to be honestly responsible  for
their   own  health.      They do not need a new  team  of
doctors  to   cure them.      They  need   an  integrative
context   which   will  encourage   them   to   work    to
maintain their own personal integrity.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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