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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8812152.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LET GO DESIRE CONTROL INTIMACY ADDICT DEPEND SCI 881215 The desire for intimacy combined with the desire to be in control of personal relationships together generates conflicts which undermine personal and communal integrity. Intimate relationships are not authentic and meaningful when participants desire to understand, predict and control them as objects in objective ways. The desire for intimacy is fulfilled only by the letting go of the desire to be in influence. Letting go of the desire to be in influence is not the same as desiring to have no control and to be immersed in chaos; nor is it the same as the desire to be controlled. As regards control differences of kind are often difficult to distinguish, especially if one desires to be in control. People cannot be in control of their perceptions of differences; thus people cannot be in control of each other. People cannot be in control of their emotional responses to perceptions; thus people can not be in control of each other. People cannot be in control of each other's response to attempts to be in control; thus people cannot be in control of each other. Attempts to be in control of intimate personal relationships are parts of collusive games of mutual self deception. Such attempts are dishonest and misleading to the participants. Authentic intimate communications which are meaningful and satisfying are undermined by the desire to be in control, and by the expectation of people being in control. Respect for the notion of trying to control people leads to disintegration. To enjoy both personal and communal integrity people need to let go of the desire and expectation of being in control. Yet, people who respect personal control clutch for more power to control when efforts to be in control undermine integrity and disintegration sets in. In clutching for more power to be in control they accelerate the process of disintegration. Calls for law and order do not usually lead to personal and communal integrity; rather they often lead to the disintegration of the intimate relationships which are the foundation of personal and communal integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================