This is http://www.essayz.com/a8812151.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COMPULSIVE ATTACH MISLEADING QUESTION INTEGRITY 881215 Often people become compulsively attached to misleading questions. Their preoccupation with a question which they regard as ultimately important leads them towards personal and communal disintegration. Such stuck people argue compulsively about how to answer their particular question when it is put in their particular way. They believe that any consideration of anything relating to their question is a contribution to their argument about the correct answer to their current formulation of their question. They cannot conceive of other ways of asking related questions; or of the possibility that the really important questions utterly transcend their question. The question upon which they focus their attention is often of the form: "Is behavior "A" good or bad behavior?" Another form of a compulsive question is: "Is behavior "A" better than behavior "B"? Compulsive questions are often misleading by virtue of being dichotomous or linear in character. Such a question constricts the people who are compulsively concerned with the question to a limited number of alternatives. The people are not free to consider alternatives questions which are rejected by the manner of asking the compulsive question. People who lack self esteem, security, confidence, etc. are often trapped in asking misleading questions regarding religion, nationality, sexuality, human origins, objectivity, security, intimacy and other reflexive considerations. The ability to succeed depends upon the ability to adjust behavior to cope with new conditions and to adjust behavior in recognition of mistakes made. Success depends upon an ability and a willingness to engage in deliberate personal change which is essentially reflexive. A person who is insecure is likely to feel threatened by the thought of change, and resist change. This is likely to lead to an expectation that external changes should be made to accommodate to an inflexible personal identity. Such a person is likely to believe that it is other people's responsibility to do what is needed for the person to succeed. Such inflexibility is bound to lead to dependency, not to independence. Making people feel insecure tends to lead to disintegrative behavior, not to liberated behavior. The ability to transcend compulsive questions and to ask transcendent question is central to success in dealing with the challenges of daily life in a competitive world. Getting stuck on asking compulsive questions can cripple you for life. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================