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    %FIXATED COMPULSIVE RESPONSIBILITY PARENT CHILD 881206

     Alcoholics  and  their codependents  become   fixated
upon   each other as the source of their   problems,   and
also  the source of their solutions; their fixes.

     A fix  is a compensation for a problem which is   not
being solved.    A  fixation is the compulsive focusing of
attention upon a fix which is not solving the problem  for
which it is a compensation.

Codependents  seek to provide fixes for addicts  who
do  not  take care of themselves.    Codependents  have  a
confused  sense of how to be  responsible.    Codependents
focus   upon  taking  care of others,   rather  than  upon
being  responsive   to  others.       They do  not   focus
upon  the responsive aspect of responsibility.

Codependents  believe it is their responsibility  to
take   care of people who do not take care of  themselves.
There  are  countless  dishonest  addicts  seeking  to  be
dependent    upon good codependents   who are  willing  to
take   care  of  people   who  refuse  to  take  care   of
themselves.

Codependents  encourage  addicts to be dependent  by
failing to take  care  of  themselves.     In turn addicts
encourage codependents  to be satisfied with their  taking
excessive   care   of  people  who will not take  care  of
themselves.      Together  they   become fixated upon each
other  as fixes for   their own  character defects,  about
which they will not  be  honest,  and regarding which they
will not take corrective steps.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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