This is http://www.essayz.com/a8809302.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %RESPOND REACT AUTHENTICALLY FEELINGS EMOTIONS 880930 Collusive participants in addictions and codependence are not free to respond authentically to their own and others' feelings and emotions, for to do so would unmask the games of mutual self deception which are essential to their maintaining their false conception of reality. If they do not actively maintain their false conception of their reality it will disintegrate, for it is only their conception within their games of mutual self deception. Collusive participants in addictions and codependence react to their own and to each other's feelings and emotions; they do not respond authentically in open and honest conversations of cognitive and affective transactions. Their reactions are compulsive reactions, not affectively thoughtful responses of personal integrity. People who are not free to know and share their own feelings and emotions exist in states of frozen feelings. They are not free to be warm and responsive, and so cannot behave responsibly. They are not attractive people because few people are attracted to people with frozen feelings. Such frozen people can not be known authentically in intimate relationships. One can not feel secure in being vulnerable with them, for they can not be known intimately, because they do not know themselves intimately. Scientists who are compulsively dedicated to objectivity and quantification are not free to know and share their own feelings and emotions, and so such scientists exist in states of frozen feelings. They are not free to be warm and responsive, and so can not behave responsibly. Such scientists are not attractive people because few people are attracted to people with frozen feelings. Such scientists cannot be known authentically in intimate relationships. We cannot feel secure in being vulnerable with them, for they cannot be known intimately, because they do not know themselves intimately. Thus they are leaders in technocratic efforts to try to achieve security which they do not know in intimate relationships of mutual vulnerability. They help motivate and lead the arms races of nations of the world. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================