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  %DIALOGUE LIBERATING DECISION QUESTIONS ATTITUDES 880913

Liberation  from the prisons of collusive addictions
and   codependence  is  facilitated  by  open  and  honest
dialogue  regarding personal experiences of liberation  by
participants in dialogue.

Liberation  comes  to people  who  make  integrative
decisions,  who raise integrative questions, who live with
integrative  attitudes.    Liberation  can  be  shared  by
meeting together to share experiences of liberation openly
and honestly.

It  is  possible to identify  liberating  attitudes,
questions,     decisions,    assumptions,    perspectives,
conviction, beliefs;  just as it is possible for people to
become imprisoned in collusive addictions and  codependent
relationships  by  slipping  into  enslaving    attitudes,
questions,    decisions,    assumptions,     perspectives,
convictions and beliefs.

Together  people  can  reconstruct  their  lives  by
sharing  their  experiences regarding both  disintegrative
and  integrative processes,  with all their pain and  joy.
Learning  comes  through dialogue regarding mistakes  made
and lessons learned from careful consideration of mistakes
made.    In an integrative community more can  be  learned
than in splendid isolation.

In  an integrative community attention is  helpfully
focused  upon  the powerful decisions which  play  central
roles  in leading into and out of collusive addictions and
codependent  relationships.   When we are  trapped in such
prisons  there is an understandable tendency   for us   to
focus   our  attention  upon  the  walls  of  the  prison:
coercion,   violence,   mean words,   anger,  frustration,
depression, fear, etc.  We can not escape from  our prison
through focussing our attention on  such walls  or through
such walls.  It is important to find the door and the door
knob, for the door is not locked, it is just shut.

The walls of the prison have been constructed by the
participants in the prison.  The walls were constructed in
the  making  of  powerful decisions which lead  away  from
freedom  and  into collusive  addictions  and  codependent
relationships.     The  power  of  the  decisions  is  not
recognized by the people who participate in the decisions.
It  is important to recognize the kinds of decisions which
hold such power of imprisonment.

The  way  out of the prison is in  fellowship  where
there  is  open and honest dialogue about  those  powerful
decisions which have lead into prison,  and about powerful
decisions which can lead back out of prison.   The way out
of prison is rarely found by isolated people.  It is often
found   by   communities  working   together   in   honest
conversations  which   convert  the  attitudes, questions,
decisions,   assumptions,   perspectives, convictions  and
beliefs of  the  participants  in conversion  processes of
liberation.  To get out of prison requires a conversion, a
turning around in conversations with fellow prisoners.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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