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                   %FREE UNDISCIPLINED SEXUAL LOVE? 880510

     Can  we be free of the disintegrative consequences of
undisciplined   sexual   love?    Are   the   consequences
determined by natural physical laws,  by our attitudes, by
social  conventions,   by  higher powers?    Can  we  free
ourselves  of the tragic consequences of respecting ideals
and values which affirm the worth of freedom, spontaneity,
creativity, relaxation, etc.; without balanced respect for
the importance  of  both personal and communal  integrity.

     Much   moralizing  and  legalistic   discipline   has
confused the issues.   Confusion is often generated by our
playing  addictive  games of mutual self deception.  It is
not easy to clarify our confused ideals and values when we
are   trapped   within  collusions   dealing   with   high
ideals and values.

     Moral  injunctions  and  legal rules  are  presumably
intended  to help promote personal and communal integrity.
They   work  about  as effectively  as  lecturing  to  the
alcoholic or    drug  addict.     Addictive  behavior  can
not     be  controlled    by   manipulative    procedures;
whether    the addictive  behavior has  alcohol,    drugs,
money,    consumer goods,  sexuality,  food,   power,   or
whatever else as its apparent  focus.   The addict is  not
at   ease,     is dis-eased.      The   addict  needs   to
rediscover      integrity,    including    honesty   about
addictive behavior  patterns  of whatever foci.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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