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         %ASPECTS OF QUALITY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS 880322

     Participants  in high quality personal  relationships
give   each   other  the  freedom  to   be   authentically
themselves.   High quality personal relationships are free
of both unilateral and mutual efforts to control feelings,
thoughts,  attitudes, behaviors, etc.   When relationships
between  people  are dominated by attempts  to  control---
there  is  a  disintegration  of  authenticity,   honesty,
dialogue, responsibility,  listening,  intimacy;  i.e.,  a
loss of integrity.  The attempts to control may focus upon
attempts to control participants as persons,  or may focus
upon  attempts to  control  aspects  of  the relationships
among participants.

     Any attempts to  gain  control are likely to generate
defensive personal reactions   which   will undermine  the
integrity of the participants  and undermine the integrity
of   their  community.    Defensive people are not free to
enter  into  open and honest dialogue.   Defensive  people
often  enter into relationships of mutual manipulation and
deception.    Relationships  can  be  mutual and  balanced
without being open, honest or integrative.  People trapped
in mutual attempts to control each other are not  free  to
participate  in  integrative  dialogue which is  open  and
honest.    Mutuality  and equality  is  not  enough.   The
freedom   to    be    open   and  honest    in    intimate
dialogue  with mutual  vulnerability and security is  also
essential.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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