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                    %SEXUAL CONTROL SALVATION FAITH 870704

     People  who  believe  that  salvation  comes  through
proper  behavior must seek to be in control  of  behavior,
especially  of behavior which is likely to be regarded  as
improper  because  it elicits a sense  of  insecurity  and
vulnerability.    Such  people  come to have  a  sense  of
responsibility to be in control of all sexual behavior.

     Control of non-objective realities and  relationships
is  virtually  impossible.    Control of some  aspects  of
objects and objective relationships is sometimes possible.
To appear to be in control of all sexual behavior,  people
often  seek  to reduce sexual relationships  to  objective
relationships between sexual objects.

     To  gain control of sexual relationships people  seek
to  identify and/or define which objects and relationships
are sexual in character, in order to be able to know which
objects and relationships need to be controlled, and which
need  not  be controlled as part of the program of  sexual
control.

     The    program   of   objectification    of    sexual
relationships  naturally  leads to sexual  alienation  and
misunderstanding; and so to unhealthy sexual relationships
which  are  out  of control,  and can  not  be  controlled
because they are sinful; i.e. full of misunderstanding and
alienation.

     Sexuality  pertains  to conception,   birth  and  the
beginnings  of  a new life,  and so to death and  finitude
which can not be controlled.   Finite creatures can not be
in  control  of their finitude as the way to transcend  it
and   be  saved  from  finitude.    Finitude  can  not  be
transcended through proper control of finite behavior.

     Pretending  to have transcended sexuality through its
objectification  is but a dishonest confirmation of  one's
finitude  and  one's  being  ill at  ease  as  an  addict.
Addicts  seek  salvation  through the denial of their  own
finitude, mistakes,  weaknesses, failures, etc.  They seek
to  be in control  when  control  is impossible,   and  so
demonstrate their own finitude to  all who can see clearly
and honestly.

     Salvation  does  not come through proper behavior  of
any  form in keeping with any formula.   It comes to those
who  accept the truth  about themselves and live with each
other with integrity in open and honest relationships with
transcend human control.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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