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           %CONCEPTUALIZING REFLEXIVE RELATIONSHIPS 870704

It  is  difficult  to  do a  good  job  without  the
necessary tools which the job calls for.

     It is difficult to perceive, describe and communicate
the subtle differences which exist between/among reflexive
relationships  without the concepts/words which  that  job
requires.  Without words which point clearly to the subtle
differences  among reflexive relationships it is difficult
to deal with them clearly and helpfully.

     We who are compulsively committed to objectivity find
it difficult  to  acknowledge  the importance of reflexive
relationships   and  to  acknowledge  the  importance   of
realities which are  the  foci of reflexive relationships;
for  they are not objective in  character,  and can not be
dealt with (with integrity)  in an objective way.   We are
prone   to   pretend   that   reflexive   realities    and
relationships are not real, or at least not important.  It
follows that we will not take the time  to become familiar
with  the tools (much less sharpen them)  which are needed
for  the job of dealing wisely in the  domain of reflexive
realities and relationships.

     If  via  collusion  it  is  taboo  to  admit  to  the
importance  of  reflexive realities and relationships,  it
follows  that  it  must be taboo to deal  with  the  tools
needed  to  do  a  good  job  of  dealing  with  reflexive
realities  and relationships.   The result is  that  there
will be embarrassment (justifying further avoidance)  with
regard to reflexive living.

     Without  clear  reflection  upon what  one  has  done
and/or  might  do  it is impossible to  live  wisely  with
integrity.    It is important to find ways to clarify  the
differences    between/among   reflexive   realities   and
relationships.  We need to develop the concepts/words with
which  to clarify/communicate the subtle differences among
reflexive relationships and realities---without attempting
to  objectify  them   to   gain  control  over  them.  The
objectification  of reflexive realities and  relationships
is  in  large  part  a collusive process  of  mutual  self
deception;  choosing to ignore that which can not be dealt
with both objectively and with integrity.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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