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                %NOT BEING IN CONTROL OF ATTACHMENT 870412

The addict is attached to a chosen means of being in
control.    The  means  of  control is  perceived  as  the
ultimate means to salvation, because it is ultimately good
to be in control.  The chosen means of being in control is
ultimately important,  and so attachment to it  is  great,
and gives power.

     Others  who  care  for the addict must  care  greatly
about the helplessness of the addict,  and so must do much
to take care of the addict.   Part of their duty in trying
to  care  for  the addict is to try to control the  damage
that  the addict does to self and others---through  trying
to  be  in  control  to  achieve  salvation  in  spite  of
circumstances which can not be controlled.

     An  addict makes decisions in terms of  a  perceptual
framework  in which it is important to be in control,  and
it  is  important  to have the chosen means  of  being  in
control.    The  decisions  are guided by  the  perceptual
framework  which  defines what is important.   Anyone  who
seeks  to  care for the addict is tempted to try  to  gain
control of the addict's perceptual framework---to help the
addict  become  free of the misleading ways  of  thinking.
Here  again  the  conceptual  framework  which   occasions
addiction  may work to get others into the  vicious  feed-
back loops of controlling attitudes thought, behavior, and
biased reflection upon the whole process.

     Scientists  are not qualified to cut the Gordian knot
because  they  are tied in knots by  their  objective  and
analytic  paradigm which puts great emphasis upon research
to  gain the knowledge needed to understand,  predict  and
control everything  in sight.   When they focus upon human
relationships  they  are tempted to seek to use  objective
research to distill the  essence  of the fruit of the tree
of  knowledge  which is in the midst of the Garden of Eden
of   meaningful  human  relationships.    Scientists   are
themselves trapped  in  the belief that it is important to
have the means to be  in control.    Addiction is for them
just  another  objective  phenomena  to  be  studied   and
understood  as the first  steps to being in control of it.
As addicts to objectivity which they see  as the  means to
control---scientists can not be  honest with themselves or
others  about  their inability to honestly  control  their
chosen  means  to be truly in control.   They can  not  as
scientists offer charitable  help in facilitating open and
honest human relationships.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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