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               %CONTROL OF OBJECTS VS RELATIONSHIPS 870207

     Objects  can  be  controlled  because  they  take  no
initiatives,   but  not all desired controls are  possible
even with objects.   One can not control an object to make
it have no mass, inertia or weight.

     Relationships  between  self  and  other  can  not be
controlled,   because  either  self or other  can  not  be
controlled.   Either may take initiatives which are beyond
outside    control.     To   control   suggests   coercive
conformation according to some predetermined plan.   It is
impossible  to  control  relationships  between  realities
which can not be controlled.

     Personal  relationships are satisfying only when they
are authentic;  except as satisfaction comes from perverse
desires  and  expectations.   People who are satisfied  by
controlling personal  relationships have  major  problems;
they do not know what authentic satisfaction is.

     It  is  integrative relationships with  other  people
that are truly fulfilling.   Fulfillment does not come  as
the fruits of achieving  ownership and/or control of other
people or their relationships.   Relationships of personal
control are not personally fulfilling.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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