When we have been involved in or complicit in benefiting-from Alienative-Conflicts - - - we are unlikely to be able to cooperate with victims-of-those-behaviors - - - without first openly-and-publicly letting-go of the ideological and emotional foundations of the alienative-conflicts. People who are clinging to the ideological-and-emotional-foundations of their own Alienative-Conflicts - - - are unable to be gracious-leaders in Mitigating their own Alienative-Conflicts. First, they must let-go of their former ideological-and-emotional-foundations - - - and cooperate in building new well-integrated foundations for Mitigating-Their-Own-Alienative-Conflicts - - - in NEW-WAYS characterized by the following kinds of Reflexive-Realities among the people who are involved: ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Cooperations Collaborations Coordinations Congratulations Generosity Hospitality Reconciliations Healings Forgiveness Integrations Authenticity Diplomacy Mutuality Modesty Humility Honesty Sustainability Flexibility Adaptability Confessions Balance Shalom Empathy Sympathy ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Victim-Participants of Alienative-Conflicts Need-Grounds for trusting people with whom to cooperate in Mitigation-Their-Own Alienative-Conflicts with: Domineering-Bullies Violent-People Coercive-People Mobbing-Mobsters Greedy-People Hoarders Power-Concentrators Kings ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ THINK TOGETHER in SHALOM! Be-Together within Shalom's Sanctuaries Discerning Through-Open-and-Honest-Dialogues - - - What-IS and What-is-NOT ESSENTIAL-TO-CIVILITY-AND-SUSTAINABLE-CIVILIZATIONS!