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Thoughts about "Facilitated-Mediation by a Trained-Mediator:"

90% of Clients enter the Facilitated-Mediation process with significant levels of resentment.

85% of those Clients in  Formal Facilitated-Mediation; Resolved their Alienative-Conflicts - - - -

                         even though there was no mandate that they stay in the process!

                         They started by telling together their respective stories to the Trained-Mediator.

      

IN-CONTRAST:  When such Alienative-Conflicts are put into the hands of Formal-Adversarial-Lawyers - - -

                         By-Law the Lawyers are REQUIRED to engage in Adversarial-Contests in COURT!

                         By-Law the Lawyer  MUST-NOT  seek to Mitigate-the-Alienative-Conflicts!


Facilitated-Mediation:   Often starts with questions such as:  

                         1.  What would like to see happen?

                         2.  What are the underlying: issues, points of irritation, gripes, anxieties, fears?

                         3.  Why are you unhappy?     What makes you unhappy?  

                         4.  What are your most basic needs - - that are not being fulfilled?  Acknowledged?  Met?

                         5.  What "contests" are merely "symptoms" of deeper-basic-needs that are not being Met?

                         6.  If those deeper-basic-needs were being Met; what other "contests" would not be important?

                         7.  How can we move from Egocentric-Preoccupations; into Positive-Constructive-Colaboration?

                         8.  What can come-to-be the focus of Open-and-Honest Mutually-Appreciated-Dialogue?

                         9.  How can we move from Polarized-Positions --> into Dialogues about Spectrums-of-Possibilities?

                        10.  To what foci of irritation;  can we helpfully give-less-attention?

                        11.  To what possible foci of cooperation; can we helpfully give-increasing-attention?