True-Lovers need to be prudent/judicious in how much they reveal of their own private-lives 
to the realms of Domineering-Bullies - - - BECAUSE IT IS OFTEN-NOT-HELPFUL TO:

 1. Unnecessarily threaten Bullies' sense of security and invulnerability - - - within
    their own-realms-of-control and self-deception - - - - - within their own-private-lives.

 2. Give Domineering-Bullies occasions for threatening others,  and extra-means-to-use-to-threaten 
    True-Lovers - - - - without helping to Mitigate any Alienative-Conflicts at-the-same-time.

 3. Violate other True-Lovers' Privacy-Rights!

 4. Reveal  TOO-MUCH about any intimate-relationships - - - and thereby violate True-Lovers' 
    Privacy-Rights. "MORE"  is  often  "NOT-BETTER". 

 5. Ignore how un-likely it is that anyone can facilitate Open-and-Honest-Dialogue by exposing 
    Domineering-Bullies to MORE intimate-information than they can: understand, appreciate, respect, 
    tolerate, honor and/or trust!

 6. Ignore how un-likely it is that anyone can help Domineering-Bullies to come-to-terms with the 
    Mitigation-of their Own-Alienative-Conflicts - - - by  focusing upon the most threatening-
    conflicts which threaten-their-most-incoherent-collusive-games-of-mutual-self-deception - - - 
    games-of mutual-self-deception about: Achieving-Total-Personal INVULNERABILITY-and-HONOR; while
    avoiding all forms of personal-intimate-relationships WHICH-INCLUDE-BEING-VULNERABLE! Games
    of Mutual-Self-Deception about such achievements cannot be won with HONOR and/or INTEGRITY!

 7. Thoughtlessly-Assume that every invitation to be intimately-together is authentic/honorable;
    in-the-absence-of convincing-evidence that the person offering the invitation is truly free-
    to-engage in an-authentic-intimate-relationship - - - free of debilitating-constraints such as:

    (a) Other on-going Exclusive-Intimate-Relationships.
    (b) Constrainingly Present  Domineering-Bullies  in people's lives.
    (c) The energy, time and resource-limitations- - - of other important committments already made.
    (d) The absence of a support-network of sympathetic-families-and-friends - - - who are ready,
        willing and able to be supportive of the kinds of intimate-relationships which might follow
        from the "invitation" being honored/accepted.

 8. Try to compete with Domineering Bullies within-their own-realms; i.e., within-the-contexts-of 
    their own: Assumptions, Mind-Sets, Attitudes, Ideas, Ideals, Values, Principles, Virtues, Goals, 
    Hopes, Aspirations, etc. - - - on-their-terms and according-to-their-choices of times-and-
    contexts - - - for their-kinds-of-activities.

 9. Translate Being-Prudently-Cautious about taking risks in Intimate-Relationships - - - into 
    generating overly-simplistic-standard:   prescriptions, proscriptions and taboos regarding 
    Intimate-Relationships, Exclusivity, Dichotomies, Polarizations, and trying to be Invulnerable
    at all-times-and-in-all-situations.  It is risky to try to manage our Reflexive-Relationships
    in the same-spirit and with the same-technologies as we try to manage our Objective-Relationships!
    Such efforts are likely to put Domineering-Bullies IN-CHARGE of our Intimate-Relationships; 
    without: FAITH, HOPE or LOVE - - ever playing any Central-Role in our most Intimate-Relationships!
    The outcomes are most likely to be TRAGIC!