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 1. True-Lovers are trying in Integrative-Ways to Transcend the Essential-
    Foundations of the Life-Styles of Domineering-Bullies.

 2. Domineering-Bullies perceive those Integrative-Efforts as efforts to 
    Entrap-Them in circumstances wherein they are not free to defend 
    themselves and their Alienative-Life-Styles - - - against Improper-
    Seductions into Improper-Kinds-of-Vulnerability - - - which undermine
    the Proper-Constraints upon Rebellious-True-Lovers who engage in 
    Unauthorized-Kinds of Intimate-Relationships in their Rebellions-
    Against-Properly-Authorized-Domineering-Bullies who are In-Charge.

 3. Who is best able to help the above people to Graciously-Mitigate 
    Their-Own-Alienative-Conflicts with the least Over-All-Long-Term-Costs?

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    We can recognize Domineering-Bullies and Mobbing-Mobsters by the extents to
    which they:

 1. Fail to put themselves imaginatively and sympathetically into other 
    people's shoes, situation and dilemmas - - - and so fail to gain a 
    better under-standing of their perspectives of the worlds around them 
    as seen through the eyes of different people in those worlds.

 2. Are Egocentric in their own approaches to the vast majority of: people,
    situations, dilemmas, personal-relationships, and communal-relationships;
    and so are in no position to participate in Mitigating-Their-Own-Alienative-
    Conflicts.
 
 3. Are unable to paraphrase accurately what other people have said to them
    and ment to covey to them in a heated/contentious conversation and so
    are unable to engage in meaningful and helpful cooperative/collaborative    
    efforts to help to get their own and other peoples' needs met in a timely
    way.

 4. Are unable to describe how different people would most likely describe
    their own: situations, challenges, dilemmas, unmet-needs and most significant
    personal and communal relationships; and so are unable to contribute
    to the Mitigation of Their-Own Alienative-Conflicts in a timely way.

 5. Are unable to openly and honestly describe their own most basic: assumptions,
    convictions, attitudes-towards-others; intentions, motivations, fears, 
    anxieties and points of vulnerability; ideals, values, principles, virtues,
    etc.; and so are unable to help others to truly and honestly understand
    how to cooperate with them - - - in getting many people's most basic 
    healthy needs met in a timely way.