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Human-Relationships are Truly-Intimate Only-to-the-Extent that each of the following are true-statements 
about the participants.

 1. The participants started becoming intimate with each other in response to balanced mutual interests in each other as
    whole persons, whose interests with each other were authentic and involvved open and honest dialogus that were free 
    of pretense and ulterior motives that were significantly egocentric.

 2. The participants were and continued to be equally powerful and always free to draw back and/or move fuerther into open-
    and honest dialogue about their respective authentic: needs, desires, concerns, fears, hopes, expectations, pleasures,
    and correlary considerations.

 3. The participants seek-together-to-cooperate in Mitigating-Their-Own Alieantive-Conflicts within their relationships;
    and with others who have shown gracious and/or troubled concerns regarding their relationshps.

 4. The participants share equally in enjoying the fruits of their cooperative efforts; and in the risks/costs of their 
    cooperative efforts.

 5. We agree Openly-and-Honestly to Be-Together within Shalom's-Dialogues; Communicating, Cooperating and Colaborating
    with Each-Other-Person   As-Well-As-We-Can  in  Appropriately-Sharing Risks-and-Benefits of Vulnerabilities-and-
    Intimacies in the Interdependent-Ways-of-Shalom.

 6. We acknowledge that we can build healthy intimate relationships that can be sustained and endure Only-to-the-Eextent
    that we LET-GO-OF:  Hopes,  Intentions-and/or-Expectations of being:

    Free-to-Act-Unilaterally        Invulnerable          Risk-Free          Totally-Secure          Dominant    

    Exclusively-In-Charge           In-Control            Superior           Concentrating-Wealth    Concentrating-Powers

    Immune-to-Criticisms            Pretentious           Secretive          Independent             Free-of-Constraints

    Free-of-Limitations             Worshipped            Idolized           Revered                 Perfect

7.  Alienative-Conflicts that are related to the relationships suggested in item six above - - - are often rooted in beliefs
    that SUPERIOR-PEOPLE can Unilaterally Make-Things-Better by UNILATERALLY-IMPOSING-SUPERIOR:

    Standards                       Judgements            Technologies       Powers                  Forces

    Tenacity                        Urgency               Taboos             Demands                 Commands

    Prerequisites                   Hierarchies           Rank-Orderings     Forms-of-Conformity     Virtues

8.  It is Exceedingly-Uunlikely that people whose beliefs are indicated in item seven above - - - will play any helpful role
    in the Mitigation of any Alienative-Conflicts.