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For True-Lovers and Domineering-Bullies to Cooperate-Graciously in helping to Truly-Mitigate each other's Core-Conflicts
--- they each need to understand the nature of each other's efforts to enjoy:

Safety   Security      Relaxation    Letting-go-of:        Fears            Anxieties       Terrors           Prejudices

Biases   Confusion     Ignorance     Secrecy               Vulnerability    Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception

About    Who-is-Good   Who-is-Evil   What-IS-GOD'S WILL    ABSOLUTE-TRUTH   Being-Perfect   Being-Superior    Being=-Pure

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The above will involve High-Level    Conflicts-Among       ULTIMATE-CONCERNS!              SEE THE CHART BELOW

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                 Core-Needs below                               Core-Strategies below
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True-Lovers    * Intimacy   Mutuality   and  Balance         *  Distributive-Justice                                       *  True-Lovers
               *                                             *                                                             *  Demonstrate-Integrity
Have-Integrity * Personal & Communal Integrity               *  Building and Maintaining Communal Sanctuaries              *
               *                                             *                                                             *  And so fail to satsify
               * Open-and-Honest-Dialogue                    *  Generosity                                                 *  Domineering-Bullies'-Demands
               *                                             *                                                             *
               *  Cooperative-Creativity                     *  Hospitality                                                *             
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               * Collaborative Meeting-of-Basic-Needs        *  Reconciliation                                             *
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               * Mutual Acceptance-and-Tolerance             *  Sharing                                                    *
               *                                             *                                                             *
               * Gracious-Sanctuaries for ALL                *  Letting-GO of Preoccupations with Alienative-Conflicts     *
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Domineering    * Independence of all limitations/constraints *  Concentrating More Power  in Secret Ways                   *  Domineering
Bullies        *                                             *                                                             *  Bullies Lack Integrity
Lack-Integrity * Personal-Freedom with No-Restrictions       *  Concentrating More Wealth in Secret Ways                   *  And so are Not-Sustainable
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               * Invulnerability in Being-Perfect            *  Secrecy in Blocking of other people's efforts              *   
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               * Being-able-to-Take-Unilateral-Actions       *  Concealment and Alienation with Pretentions                *
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               * Dominance in all Contests/Conflicts         *  Hidding Violence and Hubris                                *
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               * Being-In-Control All-of-the-Time            *  Hidding Coercion and Repression                            *
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               * CONTROLLING BIG Coalitions                  *  Always-Winning Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception    *
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               * Being Superior People In ALL WAYS           *  Appearing-To Be-Working to promote the Common-Good-4-ALL   *
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                 Core-Needs above                               Core-Strategies above