To graciously help other people to mitigate their own alienative: conflicts, behaviors, life-
styles, etc. --- we need to take many of the following steps in mutually supportive ways of
shalom:

 1. Admit to ourselves and to the others --- that we cannot resolve, settle, arbitrate or mitigate
FOR-THEM their: conflicts, grudges, resentments, desires-for-revenge, desires-to-even-the-score,
etc.  We may be able to play supportive roles in their-own-efforts to graciously mitigate-their-own-
conflicts, grudges, resentments, desires-for-revenge, desires-to-even-the-score, etc.,  but only 
if they of their own free-will-and-initiative ask-us-to-do-so in-mutually-agreed-upon-ways that 
are cooperative and sustainable on the part of those who participate and are affected thereby.  
 
We need to engage in a freely and mutually-agreed-upon cooperative-game-plan.

 2. We need to have a significant number of the following elements included within the mutually-
agreed-upon-cooperative-game-plan:

   a. An on-going-effort to bring-out-into-the-open, for Open-and-Honest examination-and-
      dialogue; participants' various: assumptions, attitudes, approaches, beliefs, 
      perspectives, points-of-view, convictions, habits, traditions, etc.   We need to agree 
      that Conflict-Mitigation-will-be-undermined to the extent that we keep such realities: 
      secret, hidden, tacit, unspoken, forgotten, repressed, suppressed, etc.

   b. We need to describe, agree-upon and Let-Go-Of the central elements of the life-styles of 
      Domineering-Bullies and Mobbing-Mobsters --- including such realities as:

      Concentrations of alienative-amounts of wealth.
      Concentrations of alienative-amounts of power.
      Concentrations of alienative-amounts of luxuries.
      Concentrations of alienative-amounts of corruption.

      We need to avoid using technologies and techniques that are inherently alienative due to:
      Violence, Coercion, Excommunications, Rejections, Exclusions, Shunnings, etc.

      We need to avoid:   
         Equating Conformity with Virtue-and-Goodness.
         Equating Invulnerability with Security-and-Safety.
         Equating Superiority with Security-and-Safety.

    c. We need to Affirm-and-Demonstrate a significant fraction of the following as Mutually-
       Supportive True-Virtues:

       Humility, Mutuality, Openness, Balance, Honesty, Accuracy, Authenticity, Patience,

       Modesty, Reconciliation, Tolerance, Hospitality, Creativity, Generosity, Adaptability,

       Flexibility, Exploration, Cooperation, Colaboration, Descriptions, Sensitivity, Hope,

       Empathy, Sympathy,  - - - in order to graciously help others to mitigate their own
       Alienative-Conflicts; in spite of Contrary-Behaviors by Domineering-Bullies and
       Mobbing-Mobsters.

    d. We need to keep in mind that for people who tolerate, respect, honor or revere the 
       Life-Styles and Advantages of Domineering-Bullies and Mobbing Mobsters --- it is 
       TRAITOROUS TO:

       Want to be intimately involved with others,
       Trust-Strangers or others not in our "Gang",
       Get-to-Know strangers to whom our friends have not introduced us,
       Take risks that may not pay well to our "Gang",
       Stop Playing our Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception --- and so fail to win them,
       Disagree with our own faithfully Domineering-Bullies and Mobbing-Mobsters,
       Be-Vulnerable by Being-Meaningfully-Intimate with True-Lovers,
       Let-Go of our Gang's Addictions and Codependent-Supporters,
       Let-Go of our Gang's Pretentious Self-Confidence,
       Let-Go of our Gang's Negativity, Threats and Attacks upon our Enemies and Evil People.

                         (c) 2009 by Paul A. Smith in      
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