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What are some of the risks encountered in seeking to Mitigate-our-Own-Alienative-
Conflicts?

 1. Being-Wrong and/or Being-Arrogant in trying to identify who is: Responsible,
    Guilty, Shameable, Evil or Rejectable - - - for causing-alienation.

 2. Making-False-Assumptions in doing Reflexive-Analyses of the natures of Alienative-
    Personal-Relationships wherein people have behaved "improperly".

 3. Engaging in Unilateral-Analyses of the natures of other people's personal-
    rerlationships.

 4. Failing-to-Begin with Patient-Listening to All-Sides of a Conflict; not just to 
    one or two "sides" of a Two-Sided conflict, a Polarization, a Dichotomous-Way-
    of Seeing-Things.   There are often three or more reasons for: Distrust, Avoidance,
    Dishonesty, Repression, Suppression, Holding-Back, etc.  It is often false-and-
    alienative to assume-and/or-prresume that there are only two sides in a conflict.
    Being an Idealistic-Simplistic-Fool is not helpful when trying to Mitigate-Our-
    Conflicts.

 5. People may be tempermentally inclined to withdraw - - - to choose to blame others
    for their own "safe" withdrawal.  They may be mentally-ill and confused about 
    other people's "mentally-sick": intentions, motivations, assumptions, thinking,
    choices and actions.  What appears to be an alienative-conflict between people 
    may be caused by a mental illness and/or genetic defect that must be treatetd in
    medical ways; rather than any other way. Those accused of initiating alienative-
    behaviors may be suffering from the injuries of: war,terrorism, rejection, bombs,
    guns, chemicals imposed upon them by terrorists, etc.  It may be an additional
    injustice to blame them for their own incoherent behaviors.  Injustice never cures
    past injustices.

 6. True-Lovers and Healthy-People who have NOT directly experiences the alienative
    realities which are "normal" in the life styles of Domineering-Bullies, Addicts
    and their Codependent-Supporters - - - are NOT-LIKELY to be able to imagine or
    to understand the lives of such victims who are Externally-Dominated by:

    Fears          Anxieties        Terrors            Terrorism        Un-Met-Needs

    Wars           Wants            Absence-of-Love    Ignorance        Distrust

    That which we have never personally experienced - - - is very difficult for us
    to understand and cope with; so Domineering-Bullies and True-Lovers each have a
    difficult task - - - to understand each other's experiences and to learn how to
    Mitigate-Unknown-Experiences-and-Terrors.  They each live in exceedingly different
    worlds and/or rrealms-of-strange-realities.

True-Lovers and Domineering-Bullies live in such Contrasting-Realms - - - that their
experiences have little-in-common.   What is normal and routine in one realm - - - is
unimaginable-and-a-sources-of: anxiety, fears, terrors and taboos in other realms where
they are central to contrasting patterns of:

    Destruction                 versus           Construction
    Disintegration              versus           Integrations
    Garbage/Rubble              versus           Civiliity/Civilization
    Alienations                 versus           Strange-Intimacies
    Misunderstandings           versus           Unimaginabale-Mutual-Understandings
    Routine-Pretentions         versus           Risky-Open-and-Honest-Dialogues
    Repressions/Suppressions    versus           Risky-Revelations and Reconciliations
    Routine-Confusion           versus           Risky-Clarifications
    Routine-Concealment         versus           Risky-Transparency
    Avoiding-Vulnerability      versus           Being Safely-Vulnerable in Intimacies
    Defending-the-Few           versus           Communal-Sanctuaries-for-ALL
    Distorted-Perceptions       versus           Distressing-Clarity-about-Alienations
    Routine-Addictions          versus           Routine-Hospitality-and-Generosity
    Routine-Greed               versus           Routine-Generosity
    Hiding-Goods                versus           Sharing-Gifts
    Hoarding-Goods              versus           Sharing-all-Goods
    Concentrating-Wealth/Power  versus           Distributing-Wealth/Power
    Winning-Collusive-Games MSD versus           Transcending-Collusive-Games of MSD
    Mandatory-Conformity        versus           Liberation form Mandatory-Conformity
    Dishonest-Conformity        versus           Honest-Creative-Authenticity
    Threats-and-Counter-Threats versus           Cooperatively Satisfying ALL Needs
    Unbalanced-Economies        versus           Building Authentic Real Communities
    Extremism against Extremism versus           Balanced Mutual-Cooperation in LOVE
    Always Consuming-MORE       versus           Prudent Sustainable-Moderate LOVERS
    Exponentail-Growth of GREED versus           Exponential-Growth of LOVE