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The Gracious-Mitigation-of-Alienative-Conflicts is nearly impossible between-within-among Domineering-Bullies 
WHO-REFUSE-TO:

 1. Be engaged in Open-and-Honest-Dialogue with Each-Other.
 2. Listen-Attentively to Each-Other.
 3. Try to Accurately-Paraphrase what Each-Other has said.
 4. Seek-to-Agree upon paraphrases that are accurate statements containing the essence of each other's Descriptions of:
    a. What is taking place in their Alienative-Conflicts.
    b. Differing-Fundamental:  Assumptions, Attitudes, Beliefs, Values, Convictions, Virtues, Vices and Priorities.
    c. What is absolutely impossible to accomplish.
    d. What is certainly    possible to accomplish.
    e. What is POLITICALLY: Impossible, Improbable, Difficult, Desirable, Essential, Likely, Certain - - To-Occur.
    f. What we cannot prevent from occurring.
 5. Stop-Playing their Favorite Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception - - - which nobody can WIN.
 6. Acknowledge that Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception are being played.
 7. Be seen with each other in Open-and-Honest-Dialogue of any kind.
 8. Acknowledge each other's In-Common-Primary: Needs, Desires, Motives, Ideals, Hopes, Ambitions, Fears, Terrors, etc.

Thus, the first steps towards helping such people to Cooperate-in-Mitigating-Their-Own-Conflicts will pertain to helping
them to recognize, acknowledge, describe, and clarify that it is in their own best interests to:

 A. See what it is costing them to continue to maintain their traditional ways.
 B. See the advantages of shifting to alternative more productive new ways.
 C. Explore ways in which their In-Common-Primary: Needs, Desires, Motives, Ideals, Hopes, Ambitions, Fears and Terrors
    can best be dealt with in cooperative/collaborative ways that overcome their In-Common-Impediments to do so.