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Domineering-Bullies sometimes create social contexts and circumstances in which the most helpful thing for a responsible
healthy person of integrity to do/say is:  "I do not have anything to say at this time."  In such a situation it may be
that:

 1. A prejudicial question was asked ant it would not be helpful at that time and place to try to say how the question is 
    prejudicial.

 2. The question may be an intentional or accidental trap, where any response will be likely be taken as evidence of guilt.

 3. It will not be helpful at that time/place to try to confront or expose the persons who are dominating the situation.

 4. It may be most helpful to quietly exercise the right to remain silent under the terms of the U.S.A. Bill-of-Rights
    in the U.S.A. Constitution.

 5. To say anything may be to become entrapped in accepting some unspoken false or misleading assumptions --- which are
    being protected by one ore more Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception which are there and then pervasive; and
    it would not be a good time to expose those tragically misleading games then and there.

 6. It will often be helpful to thank people for pointing out the importance of facilitating Open-and-Honest-Dialogue
    about particular issues, questions and Alienative-Conflicts, and indicating a reluctance to presume to say anything
    helpful without first seeking to become Well-Informed about different people's perspective on how most helpfully
    to facilitate cooperation among Participants/Victims of the Alienative-Conflict(s) which have come to light.

 7. Haste will lead to waste.  Patience is often essential.  None of us can be fully competent and helpful in all areas
    of concern --- without adequate preparation --- and we need to be modest about how much we can presume to do well
    on short notice.  Gracious Mitigations of Our-Alienative-Conflicts take: Time, Patience, Study, Careful-Listening,
    and Informed-Consideration of Reliable-Evidence.