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 %OPPOSING VICES AND VIRTUES OF DOMINEERING BULLIES 080421
 %VIOLATING INTEGRITIES INTEGRATIONS OF TRUE LOVERS 080421

REPENTANCE   entails  Letting-Go  of  Domineering-Bullies'
Alienative-Behaviors;   NOT-HONORING  Domineering-Bullies,
NOR  their Alienative-Behaviors;  NOR their Concentrations
of Wealth, Powers, Luxuries, Advantages, etc.

REPENTANCE  entails  Letting-Go  of  Copying  Domineering-
Bullies'  Alienative-Behaviors.   We cannot control  their
Alienative-Behaviors --- by trying to Dominate them in the
same ways that they try to Dominate-US.

REPENTANCE   entails  Letting-Go  of  Preoccupations  with
Domineering-Bullies'  Alienative-Behaviors.   We cannot be
free   to   behave  in  entirely  Different-Ways  in   the
Reconciling-Ways  of  Shalom ---  until we LET-GO  of  our
Preoccupations    with   Domineering-Bullies   Alienative-
Behaviors.    We need to focus our attention upon creative
alternative styles  of behavior,  not upon what we want to
eliminate,   not  upon  the people  who  are  behaving  in
Alienative-Ways that offend US.

REPENTANCE   entails   adopting   DIFFERENT:    attitudes,
assumptions,  perspectives,  beliefs,  patterns of  trust,
etc. ---  NOT-ACCENTUATING those of Domineering-Bullies in
attempts to eliminate them.

The Virtues of Domineering-Bullies are Terrible-Guides  in
efforts to Transcend-Domineering-Bullies.

Often the  Virtues of Domineering-Bullies are the Vices of
True-Lovers.

Often   the  Virtues  of  True-Lovers  are  the  Vices  of
Domineering-Bullies.

It  is the qualities of our relationships which we need to
change in cooperative ways; not each other whom we need to
change in unilateral ways.

Our Reflexive-Relationships cannot  be  changed creatively
in unilateral ways.

Our Reflexive-Relationships can be creatively changed only
in cooperative/collaborative open-and-honest ways.

True: Repentance, Reconciliation, Open-and-Honest-Dialogue
and  other  Essential-Related-Realities within  Reflexive-
Systems-Analysis    are    Incomplete-in-the-Absence    of
Honestly-Told-Accounts of the:

 1.  Life-Stories of those persons involved.

 2.  Evolutions of Personally-Honored-Individual-Virtues,
 3.  Evolutions of Personally-Honored-Virtue-Clusters,
 4.  Evolutions of Personally-Honored-Risky-Virtues,
 5.  Evolutions of Personally-Honored-Alienative-Vices,

 6.  Evolutions of Communally-Honored-Individual-Virtues,
 7.  Evolutions of Communally-Honored-Virtue-Clusters,
 8.  Evolutions of Communally-Honored-Risky-Virtues,
 9.  Evolutions of Communally-Honored-Alienative-Vices,

10.  Evolutions of Alienative-Myths-of-Redemptive-XXX.

     Be-Together in the Many-Gracious Ways of Shalom.

                         (c) 2008 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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