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%OUTSIDE UNINVOLVED EVOLUTIONS NOT FIXED RIGID GODS 080204
%IDOLS IDOLATRY ABSOLUTE ETERNAL TRUTH ARROGANCE ME 080204
 %DOMINATION SYSTEM POWERS THAT BEING ALIENATE EVIL 080204

To the extent that Intimate-Relationships are:   ----

Truly-Intimate, Un-Inhibited, Un-Repressed, etc. ----

There are bound to be Times/Occasions when those  involved
in Intimate-Relationships --- are Confronted-With-Dilemmas
about how much they can helpfully share with integrity ---
with those who have  NOT  been involved in certain aspects
of  the  Intimate-Relationships.    Helpful boundaries are
bound to be  fuzzy and evolving ---  as the  relationships
evolve.    Helpful  boundaries  are NOT:   fixed,   rigid,
unilateral,   imposed,   prescriptive,  proscriptive,   of
external origins, or likely to generate alienation.

Helpful Particular-Boundaries are likely to Evolve-Around-
the: relationships, desires,  hopes, expectations, dreams,
visions, and associated: anxieties, fears, risks, threats,
uncertainties,   etc.  ---  of the Particular-Participants
within the Intimate-Relationships.   At any one  point  in
the  evolutions of  the relationships ---  it is  unlikely
that  it will  be possible for anyone to  anticipate  what
Particular-Boundaries will be Appropriate-And-Helpful very
far into the future.    Helpful-Appropriate boundaries are
not  eternal.   Appropriate-Helpful  Particular-Boundaries
evolve  around the needs of the Particular-People who  are
involved  in  the  Particular-Relationships.     Outsiders
cannot    know   what   Particular-Boundaries   will    be
Appropriate-And-Helpful to the Particular-Participants  in
any Particular-Intimate-Relationships.

HOWEVER: It  is  possible  to  describe  some Clusters-of-
Virtues and Clusters-of-Vices that people who are involved
in Intimate-Relationships will do well to keep in mind ---
and   be  in  Open-and-Honest-Dialogue  Concerning   those
Clusters-of-Virtues and Clusters-of-Vices.  Yet, the exact
implications of those clusters of Virtues-and/or-Vices ---
are  not  likely to be clear to anybody who has not  been,
and   is  not  presently  involved  in,    the   Intimate-
Relationships --- because they as outsiders cannot be well
informed   about   the  exact  nature  of  the   Intimate-
Relationships.  Beware of Protestations-to-the0Contrary by
Domineering-Bullies who engage in  Alienative-Behaviors as
they  pretend  that they can be  helpfully  in  charge  of
Controlling-Intimate-Relationships!   The roles of: Greed,
Addictions,      Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception,
Mental-Illnesses,   Fear,   Injuries,  Physical-Illnesses,
etc.  need to be given careful consideration by all  True-
Lovers seeking to be wise, prudent and well-informed.

     Be-Together in the Many-Gracious Ways of Shalom.

                         (c) 2008 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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