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  %LETTING GO CONTESTS CONFLICTS DOMINANT NEGATIONS 080108
  %DETACHING FROM CONTENTIOUS VIOLENT RELATIONSHIPS 080108
 %AVOIDING DISTRACTIONS CONTROLLED BY TRAGIC OTHERS 080108
%EXTERNAL DEFINITION IDENTITIES MEANING SIGNIFICANT 080108

IF all of us continue to focus our attention, energy,  and
time upon contests, conflicts, and efforts to be dominant;
there  will  be no one working on shedding light upon  the
many   constructive  alternatives  within  the   Mutually-
Complementary-Ways-of-Shalom.

IF  we  keep our noses to the  grind-stones  of  contests,
conflicts,  and efforts to be dominant ---  we will not be
able to  clearly  recognize  and  consider the many Wider-
Alternatives  within  the  Mutually-Complementary-Ways-of-
Shalom.

Traditional  contests,   conflicts,   and  efforts  to  be
dominant  ---   serve as BLINDERS ---  as on a  horse  ---
keeping  us  from  being  DISTRACTED by  the  many  Wider-
Alternatives  within  the  Mutually-Complementary-Ways-of-
Shalom.

Often new visions are not seen clearly ---  because of the
clouds and turbulence around  us when we are  immersed  in
our traditional contests,  conflicts,   and  efforts to be
dominant.

We  need  to  get  away  from  our  traditional  contests,
conflicts,   and  efforts to be dominant ---  and need  to
spend   time  improving  our  understandings  of  what  is
possible within  the Mutually-Complementary-Ways-of-Shalom
--- by Intentionally-Detaching-From:

 1.  Fighting in negative ways that are alienative.
 2.  Being defined by what and whom we oppose.
 3.  Letting others set our agendas for us-in-negations.
 4.  Having no time or energy for integrative-affirmations
 5.  Trying to win --- by making others lose in defeat.
 6.  Attacking people whom we have labeled Evil-Enemies.

To-Survive --- we need to focus intentionally  and clearly
upon   making   clear   affirmations  in  words   and   in
Integrative-Affirmative-Patterns  of behaviors ---  guided
by Coherent-Clusters-of-Affirmative-Virtues.

     Be-Together in the Many-Gracious ways of Shalom.

                         (c) 2008 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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