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  %BEING TOGETHER WITHIN MUTUALLY SUPPORTIVE SHALOM 071227
%RECOGNIZING DIFFERENCES BETWEEN TRUE LOVERS ALIENS 071227
  %DOMINEERING PEOPLE ARROGANT SELF RIGHTEOUS GREED 071227
   %POWER CONCENTRATIONS WEALTH LUXURIES ALONE BEST 071227
%SUPERIOR PEOPLE RACE RELIGION NATION DOCTRINE GODS 071227
 %SAVED CHURCH CLUB EXCLUSIVE MEMBERS EXCOMMUNICATE 071227

True-Lovers  avoid  trying  to  force others  into  making
Either-Or-Choices,    Yes-Or-No-Choices;  between just two
Mutually-Incompatible-Options.

Domineering-People-Regularly  try  to  force  others  into
making Only-Either-Or-Choices,  Only-Yes-Or-No-Choices ---
always  between effectively Just-Two-Options ---  For-Them
OR Against-Them.

Be  clear about how to recognize which kinds of people are
appealing for your Support-and-Presence With-Them!  Beware
of people who are stuck in Dichotomous-and-Polarizing ways
of thinking, approaching others and acting as Domineering-
People.

If you choose to spend your time with True-Lovers --- your
life   will   become  Complicated-and-Challenging  in  ---
Creative-Ways which Transcend-Original-Visions of possible
outcomes and expectations.  Predicting the future will not
be easy!

If  you choose to spend your time with  Domineering-People
--- you life will Appear-To-Be-Simple, focused, meaningful
and significant ---   but  in  ways  which are SURE-TO-BE:
Destructive, Violent, Coercive and generating unimaginable
amounts of: Alienation,  Estrangement,  Misunderstandings,
Confusion,  Chaos,   and Tragic-Outcomes --- which Do-Not-
Fulfill    Original-Promises-or-Expectations.

People  who  give us  only  EITHER/OR-CHOICES;   "You-are-
Either-With-US" or "Against-US" --- are clearly NOT:

 1.  Committed to Authentic Conflict-Resolution.
 2.  Committed to Affirming any Clusters-of-True-Virtues.
 3.  Committed to any True Integrations-or-Integrities.
 4.  True-Lovers Seeking-to-be-Together in Shalom's-Ways.
 5.  Committed to being in Open-and-Honest-Dialogues.
 6.  Peace-Makers seeking to end Destructive-Wars.
 7.  Honestly-Seeking Transcendent-Truths-in-Love.
 8.  Seeking to Transcend-Domination-Systems'-Destructions
 9.  Demonstrating any Transcendent-Form-of-Integrity.
10.  Trying to increase the chance of US Trusting-Them.

True-Lovers  are likely to seek to  Promote-and-Facilitate
Open-and-Honest-Dialogue-With-US by:

 1.  Making Clear-Affirmations Without-Any-Negations.
 2.  Making Clear-Commitments to Clusters-of-Virtues.
 3.  Showing that they are willing to take Prudent-Risks.
 4.  Trying to understand US and our Honest-Perspectives.
 5.  Trying to share their Honest-Perspectives with US.
 6.  Trying to help us understand Their-Perspectives.
 7.  Helping US to understand what they most fear about US
 8.  Helping US to understand what they most like about US
 9.  Helping US to understand their cultures & histories.
10.  Showing that they are willing to Share-Risks with US.

     Be-Together in the Many-Gracious ways of Shalom.

                         (c) 2007 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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