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     It  is  dangerous to take Major-Risks with  strangers
about whom you have learned very little as regards how:

 1.  Honest, gentle and humble they are.
 2.  Hospitable, generous and civil they are.
 3.  Cooperative, collaborative and mutual they are.
 4.  Willing their are to listen to you and others.
 5.  Skilled they are in listening to you and others.
 6.  Patient they are in the face of adversity.
 7.  Tenacious they are in the face of difficulties.
 8.  Committed they are to fulfill promises/covenants.
 9.  Well integrated they are as whole persons.
10.  What their expectations are of themselves & others.

     We  can with Continuing-Integrity take small-risks in
getting  to  know strangers;  and the more we learn  about
them  in  the above regards ---  the safer it will  be  to
gradually move towards new kinds of risks in more intimate
relationships.

     The   reason  for  not  taking  Major-Risks  in   any
premature  time or situation ---  is not because of  other
people's demands,  commandments and rules.   It is because
how Major-Risks may be ahead for us ---  depends upon How-
Ignorant we may yet be about the above aspects of  another
person  who  is  not  yet Truly-Well-Known by  us  in  our
relationships with the person.

     There  are  Major-Risks present  when  there  is  any
Major-Imbalance   between/among   two   or   more   people
considering how Familiar-and-Honest They-and-You are With-
Regard-To:

     1.  Power, Wealth, Influence, Prestige.
     2.  Intuitions about complex human relationships.
     3.  Ways people are vulnerable.
     4.  Ways people are defensive.
     5.  Ways people are intimate.
     6.  Sophisticated cultures and world travel.
     7.  Multiple languages in reading and dialogue.
     8.  Complex logic and mathematical relationships.
     9.  Complex music, art, literature and sciences.
    10.  Sexual relationships and intimations.
    11.  Philosophy, Spirituality, Religion and Theology.
    12.  Human possibilities, limitations and ignorance.
    13.  Being Dominant, Submissive, Assertive, etc.
    14.  Being open to personal and communal integrations.
    15.  Being shut to personal and communal integrations.
    16.  Being willing to take wise/prudent risks in LOVE.

     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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