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     There   are important/essential  differences  between
how  True-Lovers  and  Domineering-People  Draw-Boundaries
between Healthy-Private-Behavior    and     Objectionable-
Private-Behavior.       The  following texts point to some
of   those differences between what  is  Properly-Assured;
Odd-Numbered For-DomineerinG-People and Even-Numbered For-
True-Lovers.

     Down through  history these differences have  lead to
many enduring  conflicts  between people's conceptions  of
what is: right, proper,  moral,  ethical, just, justified,
justifiable,   legitimate,   good;  and what  is:   wrong,
improper,  im-moral,  un-ethical, un-just,   un-justified,
un-justifiable, illegitimate, and evil.

 1.  Domination of dangerous/risky private behaviors.
 2.  Healthy-Sanctuaries for Open-and-Honest-Dialogue.

 3.  Respect for laws, orders, commands, and officials.
 4.  Respect for shalom, hospitality, reconciliation.

 5.  Respect for ancestors, traditions, ancient warriors.
 6.  Respect for reconcilers, healers, peacemakers.

 7.  Worship of Dominant Means-Technologies of Control.
 8.  Reverence toward Truly-Transcendent Humane-Relations

 9.  Successful Divide-and-Conquer Management-Procedures.
10.  Integrative Reconcile-and-Heal Conflict-Resolutions.

11.  Robust inhibitions  of unauthorized creative-actions.
12.  Robust inspirations of Creative-LOVE In-Action NOW.

13.  Robust repressions of memories of un-authorized acts.
14.  Robust clarifications of True-Lovers Ways-of-Shalom.

15.  Formalizations of all kinds of Proper-Behaviors/Laws.
16.  Affirmations of Creative-Demonstrations of LOVE'S-LAW

17.  Unilateral-Success by Individuals of Invulnerability.
18.  Cooperative-Integrations of Complementary-Ideals.

19.  Successful-Concentrations of Power-and-Wealth by ONE.
20.  Cooperative-Integrations of Complementary-Peoples.

21.  Successful-abuse of vulnerable-people's weak-points.
22.  Reconciling-Respect for vulnerable-people's real-need

23.  Successful-Coalition-Building to defeat Failed-Ones.
24.  Gracious-Hospitality Reconciling Disadvantaged-Ones.

25.  Isolate Vulnerable-Individuals for Sexual-Abuse.
26.  Integrate Vulnerable-Individuals in Safe-Sanctuaries.

27.  Form Coalitions of Domineering Invulnerable-Ones.
28.  Form Coalitions of Hospitable True-Lovers of Shalom.

29.  Form Coalitions Committed to Total Unilateral Control
30.  Form Coalitions Committed to Integrities' Foundations

     There have been many tragic disagreements about  what
kinds  of realities can helpfully be described/labeled  as
being  "evil"   or  "good"    in  clearly  polarizing  and
dichotomous ways.   Many of the essays in this  collection
reflect  the view that it is most helpful to view  human's
demonstrations of: estrangement, alienations, banishments,
excommunications,      distrust,     suspicion,    enmity,
violence, ˙contentiousness,   coercion,  etc.  ---  as the
PRIMARY-FORMS-OF-EVIL.

     It is  rarely helpful to describe the  NON-RELATIONAL
consequences of PRIMARY-EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS as being  EVIL-
IN-ISOLATION.     In  this view that which is  TRAGICALLY-
ISOLATED   cannot   be  helpfully   described/labeled   as
ESSENTIALLY-EVIL  as an ISOLATED-REALITY  of-any-kind  ---
personal,   objective,  abstract,   textual,   scriptural,
musical, artistic, geographic, imaginary, imaged,  etc.

     The  Real-Test  of  the  Above-Suggestions  is   HOW-
HELPFUL-ARE  the-actual-actions   of   describing-various-
actual-realities "as-evil"   in their "state-of-isolation"
---  outside-of-any-RELATIONSHIPS which "are-evil" in-the-
sense-indicated-above.

     Some  of  the  most  difficult  tests  of  the  above
suggestions pertain  to  setting   boundaries  to  protect
vulnerable-people   from  Domineering-People  within   the
context of  intimacies  which involve two-to-eight closely
inter-dependent  people;  with at  least a majority of the
people being Domineering-People;  e.g., 1 of 2, 2  of 3 or
4,   3  of 5 or 6,  4  of 7 or 8 intimates who are  inter-
dependent-in-fact;     even-if-not-in-intent.

     It  is especially difficult to  draw-boundaries  when
vulnerable  people are seeking to  form  healthy  intimate
relationships;   but  pair  up  with  others  who are more
inclined-toward-being-domineering  than they are  inclined
toward   clear  committments  to  honor   the   essential-
foundations  for  personal-and-communal  integrations-and-
integrities --- within mutual-and-balanced covenants with-
each-other.   Outsiders  cannot  helpfully draw all of the
essential boundaries for them, without being domineering!

     It   is   odd  how  many  people   regularly   choose
Alienation-and-Violence.

     It is tragic  how  few  people regularly choose Love-
and-Reconciliations.

     Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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