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   %TRUE FULL MEANINGFUL CONFLICT RESOLUTION MUTUAL 060511
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     True, full and meaningful Conflict-Resolution entails
Mutual-Decisions  of those involved in conflicts ---  that
it is better for them  to cooperate ---  than to engage in
conflicts which entail: contentiousness, coercion,  greed,
ego-satisfactions,     confrontations,     superior-force,
pretense and other alienative patterns of behavior.

     True,   full and meaningful conflict resolutions  are 
NOT  ˙˙reached  ˙through  ˙UNILATERAL  ˙initiatives  ˙˙and  
actions intended to settle questions about: 

     1.  Who-is superior and/or who-is inferior.
     2.  Who-is dominant and/or who-is submissive.
     3.  Who has more wealth/power and who-has less.
     4.  Who-is right and who-is wrong.
     5.  Who-is righteous and who-is not righteous.
     6.  Who-is saved and who-is dammed.
     7.  Who-should-rule and who-should-obey.
     8.  Who-should-be-humbled and who-should-be-praised.
     9.  Who-should-be-excluded and who-included.
    10.  Who-is-guilty and who-is free-of-guilt.
    11.  Who-is-complicit and who-is not complicit.
    12.  Who-is-forgive and who-continues-to-be-guilty.
    13.  Who-is-shamed and who-is-praised.
    14.  Who-is-humble and who-is-arrogant.

     So  long  as  members of a community  are  trying  to
resolve conflicts in any of the above fourteen ways; or in
other  ways  which  share the same  kinds of  assumptions,
beliefs and conviction as are found in the above  fourteen
ways --- they WILL-NOT truly or meaningfully resolve their
conflicts.

     Conflicts can be Truly-and-Meaningfully-Resolved only 
in ways which entail many, if not all, of the following: 

     1.  Cooperation,
     2.  Collaboration,
     3.  Open-and-Honest-Dialogue,
     4.  Acknowledging the roots of Past-Tragedies,
     5.  Learning from Past-Tragedies,
     6.  Moving beyond blaming, shaming and guilting,
     7.  Admitting Tragedies are rooted in high-ideals,
     8.  Admitting Tragedies are rooted in high-values,
     9.  Seeking through Integrations to avoid Tragedies,
    10.  Seeking to transcend Playing-Collusive-Games,
    11.  Seeking to transcend Domination-Systems,
    12.  Seeking to redeem the Fallen-Powers-That-Be,
    13.  Facilitating and Promoting Distributive-Justice,
    14.  Transcending the Myth-of-Redemptive-Violence,
    15.  Transcending the Myth-of-Redemptive-Coercion,
    16.  Transcending the Myth-of-Redemptive-Domination,
    17.  Transcending the Myth-of-Redemptive-Controls,
    18.  Transcending the Myth-of-Redemptive-Sacrifice,
    19.  Transcending Unilateral-Initiatives-as-Good,
    20.  Transcending Concentrations of Power/Wealth.

                         (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in 
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)

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