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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ABSENCE REAL PEOPLE COURTSHIP EXPLORING SIMILAR 060416 %HEALTHY INTEGRATIVE RELATIONSHIPS EVIL INDIVIDUALS 060416 %POSSIBLE IMPOSSIBLE UNAWARE MINDFUL BUDDHA EMPATHY 060416 %SYMPATHY FEARFUL DISDAINFUL DIFFERENT WEALTH POWER 060416 %ULTIMATE CONCERNS IDOLS IDOLATRY MATURITY PARADIGM 060416 %DOMINANT COERCION VIOLENCE ADDICTIONS POLARIZATION 060416 In the absence of two real people who are truly exploring the possibilities developing roughly the same kind of relationship --- there is no real courtship. A real courtship is about two people exploring how similar are their visions of whatever each of the two perceives as truly possible --- as they relate to each other. It is not a real courtship if: 1. Either is unaware of the other. 2. Either is aware, but fearful or disdainful of the other. 3. The two are so different in: maturity, power, wealth, interests, disposition, paradigms, intelligence, education, culture, language, etc. --- that the possibilities of real open and honest dialogue are slim at best. 4. The social contexts of the two weigh very heavily against any kind of open and honest public dialogue ever occurring with both personal and communal integrity. 5. The levels of health of the two weigh against there ever being opportunities of integrative open and honest dialogue between the two people. 6. The courtship exists only at the level of fantasy on the part of either or both of the two. 7. Balance-is-Absent and Dominance-is-Present; e.g., as regards: Budgeting-Time-and/or-Money, Work-Done, Benefits-Enjoyed, Diet, Friendships, Beliefs, Convictions, Rituals, T.V., Radio, News, Magazines, Books, Habits, Leisure, Religion, Intimacies, Sexuality, Rituals, Visitations, Taboos, etc. Real-Courtships are about building balanced and healthy personal relationships; i.e., relationships which facilitate and promote both personal and communal integrations and integrities. No form of dominance plays a central role in real courtships. To be Truly-Balanced In-their-Efforts Real-Courters must be empathetic/sympathetic to each-other's needs which originate in the challenges which they each have in dealing with the needs of yet-other significant-people in each-there's lives. The Web-of-Those-Relationships may extend to all members of the Crew-of-Space-Ship-Earth--- with lower significance the more intermediaries there are within the far-extending Web-of-Those-Relationships. Perfection in fulfilling the above "vision" is of course impossible. True-Lovers within Real-Courtships just do the best they can do, and tolerate each other's difficulties in trying to fulfill the "vision" in LOVE, by being graciously together in the Way of Shalom. (c) 2006 by Paul A. Smith in "Search for Honesty and Integrity" (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================