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%CHOOSING WAY FRAMES QUESTIONS PARADIGMS WAR SHALOM 051216
 %DOMINATE COOPERATION CONFLICT COLLABORATION PEACE 051216
 %COSTLY DESTRUCTIVE MILITARY INDUSTRIAL COMPLEXITY 051216
%INTEGRATIONS INTEGRITIES DESTRUCTIVE HOSTILITY SIN 051216
  %HOSPITALS HOSPITALITY HEALING GOOD RELATIONSHIPS 051216
%BATTLES DICHOTOMIES ARMIES OPPOSING SIDES ALIENATE 051216

     Domineering-People's thoughts,  attitudes,  feelings,
fears,  and childhood-experiences --- are most likely All-
Inter-Related; and contribute to how-they-became the Mean-
Kinds  of  Domineering-People  that  they   Thoughtlessly-
Become.

     We  may not be able to Understand-and-Facilitate  the
Healing-of-Domineering-People  (including our selves)   so
long as we do Not-Understand How-And-Why it is that:

     "Domineering-People's thoughts,  attitudes, feelings,
fears,   and  childhood-experiences are all-inter-related;
and contribute  to  how-they-have-became the Mean-Kinds of
Domineering-People that they Thoughtlessly-Become.

     1.  Children who grow  up  in  Abject-Poverty --- are
likely to grow up Feeling-and-Believing-and-Thinking  that
the Key-to-Fulfilling-Their-Needs is always To-Get-More of
what it is that they lacked during their childhood.

     2.  Children  who grew up in a community where  there
was  a  Great-Disparity  between  what  the  Powerful-And-
Respected people had; and what their Poor-Families had ---
are  likely to grow up  Feeling-and-Believing-and-Thinking
that the Key-to-Fulfilling-Their-Needs ---  is  always To-
Get-and-Have-More-than-What-their-Neighbors-Have.

     3.  Children  who grew up in Communities where  there
was Little-Wealth-and-Power-Sharing,  Little-Conservation,
Little-Dialogue    and   Little-Hospitality   and    Much-
Consumption  ---   are  likely  to  grow  up  Feeling-and-
Believing-and-Thinking that the Right-Way-to-Have-Enough -
--  is to unilaterally: Make-Get- or-Steal whatever-it-is-
that-YOU-Need.

     4.  Children who grew up in Communities-Dominated-by-
Needs-and-Fears-of-NOT-Having-Enough  ---   are likely  to
grow  up  Feeling-and-Believing-and-Thinking  that   their
Unilateral-Management-of-People's-Fears ---  is the Right-
Way-to-Have-Enough in the Midst-of-Scarcity.

     5.  Children    who   grew   up   in    Families-and-
Neighborhoods  that  were  Dominated-by-Anxieties  due  to
Debilitating:  Needs,  Threats, Alienation,  and Fears ---
are  likely to grow up  Feeling-and-Believing-and-Thinking
that the  Key-to-their-Adult-Fulfillment  ---   will be to
Dominate-Others   by  Unilaterally-Managing-Others'-Needs-
Anxieties-Alienations-and-Fears.

     6.  Little-Children  who  grew  up  in  Families-and-
Neighborhoods that lacked the Safety-Nets of  Hospitality-
and-Healing within True-Sanctuaries-Build-For-All-to-Heal-
In --- are likely as Belittling-Adults to BUILD-FORTS-AND-
MANSIONS-AND-SUVs  TO-HIDE-IN  ---   isolated  from  their
neighbors in Village-Earth.

     7.  Little-Children who  experienced  Alienation-and-
Isolation-From Health,  Wealth,  Power,  and Reverence ---
are  likely  as  Belittling-Adults to  Make-Sure  that  as
Belittling-Adults  they  live  on  the  Other-Side-of-The-
Inevitable-Dividing-Lines of Adult-Living.

     8.  Fearful-Greedy-Withholding-of-Gifts-to-Neighbors
in  One-Generation-of-Adults leads to  Fearful-Generosity-
toward-Military-Industrial-Complexes   in  the  Following-
Generations.

     9.  Fears-of-Cooperative-Integrative-Activities    in
One-Generation-of-Adults  leads to Fearful-Cooperation  in
efforts to Dominate-Enemies in Following-Generations.

    10.  Fears-of-Vulnerability-in-Intimacies    in   One-
Generation-of-Adults  leads to Fearful-Defensive/Offensive
Unilateral-Actions  in Following-Generations that seek  to
Unilaterally-Achieve-Invulnerability  through   the costly
Alienative-services of Military-Industrial-Complexes.

    11.  Fearful-Failures  to be Generously-Integrative in
One-Generation are often followed by  Generous-Destructive
Cooperative-Behaviors in the Disintegrative-Rituals-of-War
in following generations.

             Our choices are often between:

         Generous-Integrative Ways- of-Living
                          and
         Generous-Disintegrative Ways-of-Living;

                        between

Generosity-Toward-Integrations in Gracious Reconciliation
                          and
    Generosity-Toward-Disintegration in Evil-Alienation.

                        between

   Cooperating Together in Shalom fueled/guided by LOVE
                          and
 Cooperating Together in Wars fueled/guided by Fear/Greed.

                        between

    The Risks entailed in Intimacies-in-True-Sanctuaries
                          and
    The Risks entailed in Alienations-between-Fortresses.

                        between

     Risky LOVE, Generosity, Hospitality and Civility
                          and
     Risky HATE, Greed, Hostility, and Contentiousness.

                  Shalom is the True-Way.

                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in
                      "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                    (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)


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