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   %DOMINEERING PEOPLE TRUE LOVERS COMPETE PROPERLY 050328
%THINK FRAME CONFLICT VALUES IDEALS TRANSCENDENT ID 050328
%CONCERNS COMPLEMENTARY MUTUAL GOALS PROFIT SELL IT 050328
%PRIORITY RIGHTS RITES HUMILITY ARROGANCE HUBRIS GO 050328
%GOING HEAVEN HELL DISINTEGRATE GEORGE LAKOFF FRAME 050328
  %STRICT FATHER MODEL FAMILY ELEPHANT LIVING ROOMS 050328

     Domineering-People  and True-Lovers compete with each
other   about  how  to

1.  Properly-Think-About Conflicting-Value/Ideals,
2.  Frame-and-Talk-About their Transcendent-Concerns,
3.  Profitably-Sell Their-Convictions,
4.  Set-Priorities about Rights, Rites, and Righteousness.

     In his insightful, thoughtful  & readable little book
"don't  think of an elephant"  George Lakoff has Honestly-
Exposed-to-View  the  Contrasting-Ways  in  which  Leaders
Frame-and-Talk-About   their  Transcendent-Concerns  With-
Frames of Contrasting-Visions about what is a Good-Family.

1.  Dobson's Strident-Strict-Father Model-of-The-Family:

  a.  The World-Is-A-Dangerous-Place, Always-Will-Be.
  b.  There is Evil-Out-in-The-World, Always-Will-Be.
  c.  The World-Is-Essentially-Competitive, Will-Be.
  d.  Winners-And-Losers Will-Always-Exist.
  e.  Absolute-Right and Absolute-Wrong Always-Exist.
  e.  Children-are-born-Essentially-Bad.
  f.  Children-Want-to-Do What-Feels-Good; Not-Right.
  g.  Children-Have-To be-made To-Be-Good; Strictly.
  h.  Only Strict-Fathers can Succeed-at-that-Tasks-Of:
  i.  Protecting-the-Family in The-Dangerous-World.
  j.  Support-The-Family in The-Dangerous-World.
  k.  Teach-His-Children Who-IS-Right, Who-Is-Wrong.
  l.  How-To-Be Redemptively-Coercively-VIOLENT.
  m.  Honesty, Modesty & Humility are Signs-of-Weakness.
  n.  Strict-Fathers must be Strong, Assertive, Right.
  o.  In Times-of-Crisis Strict-Fathers Act-Unilaterally.
  p.  Strict-Fathers-Give-Good-Orders, Children-Obey.
  q.  Through-Punishments Strict-Fathers-Teach-Goodness.
  p.  Physical-Violence Distinguishes-Right-from-Wrong.
  q.  Without-Violence Children-Do-Not-Become-Moral.
  r.  Morality IS Internal-Discipline-and-Conformity.
  s.  Morality is Indicated by Acquired Wealth-Power.
  t.  Prosperity comes through Enlightened-Self-Interest.
  u.  Given-Opportunity Good-People Develop-Self-Interest.
  v.  Good-Communities-Naturally-Grow via Self-Interests.
  w.  Self-Interested-Individuals Rightly-Cooperate.
  x.  Good-People are those who prosper in Self-Interests.
  y.  The-Above Describe God's Natural-Laws-of-Nature.
  z.  IT will Always-Be As-D-Scribed.  GOD-IS-ETERNAL!

      God is in His-Heaven.

            Father is in His-Family.

                 The USA is in Its-World.

                       All is Well-With-The-World.

                              Evil-Is-Eliminated!


2.  True-Lovers' Nurturing-Parent Model-of-The-Family.

  a.  The world is an evolving place, still imperfect.
  b.  Human-Relationships are still-evolving, imperfect.
  c.  Good-Relationships evolve-cooperatively, honestly.
  d.  Evil-Relationships evolve-competitively, dishonestly
  e.  Distributive-Justice is essential to Human-Health.
  f.  Righteousness resides in True-Sanctuary-Communities.
  g.  Children-Grow-Healthy within Healthy-Relationships.
  h.  Healthy-Parents Model Integrative-Relationships.
  i.  True-Security shows Safety-in-Honest-Vulnerability.
  j.  Secure-Parents Facilitate Honest-Integrations.
  k.  Secure-Parents are: Humble, Kind and Gracious.
  l.  Honesty, Modesty & Humility are Signs-of-Integrity.
  m.  Strength comes through dialogue and cooperation.
  n.  Crises can often be avoided through such strength.
  o.  Evolution makes ancient-goods-uncouth, out-of-date.
  p.  Violence engenders Alienation-and-Disintegration.
  q.  Arrogance engenders confusion, chaos, ignorance.
  r.  Integrity is not founded upon conformity.
  s.  Concentrations of Wealth/Power Engender-Corruption.
  t.  Space-Ship-Earth encompasses Limited-Resources.
  u.  A Ship's-Family must Cooperate-To-Survive-Together.
  v.  Survival entails the Transcendence-of-Competition.
  w.  Nurturing-Parents demonstrate Cooperative-Survival.
  x.  Cosmic-Evolution demonstrates Integrative-Processes.
  y.  Meaningful-Relationships are not Forced-Into-Being.
  z.  Meaningful-Relationships Endure-Naturally-in-Love.

                            Shalom!

     True-Lovers  can  understand and helpfully-deal  with
the  Lack-of-  Integrity on the part of Domineering people
who  are Mis-Led by the Strict-Father-Model-of-The-Family;
because  True-Lovers are Modeling:    Honesty,   Humility,
Cooperation, Collaboration, Modesty, Coherence.

     Domineering-People  who  are Mis-Led by  the  Strict-
Father-Model-of-The-Family  cannot understand or helpfully
deal with True-Lovers in Cooperative-Ways; because they as
Domineering-People    are    Playing-Games-of-Mutual-Self-
Deception  in  Keeping-With-The-Fallen-Powers-That-Be   as
described by Walter-Wink in his Powerful-Book "The Powers-
That-Be."     Walter Wink's and George Lakoff's books  are
Mutually-Complementary;   and  complementary to  the  book
"Facing Terrorism;  Responding as Christian " by Edward Le
Roy, Long. All three offer well-written, concise, readable
and  insightful  perspectives  on the ills of  the  modern
world.

     We  cannot  do anything  with  integrity,   integrate
anything, or demonstrate any kind of integrities --- while
we are playing Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception in
support  of  The-Fallen-Powers-That-Be.   That is  a  hard
lesson  to internalize ---  while trying to be Successful-
Capitalists  Being-Rewarded-by-The-Strict-Father-God   who
is Successfully-Presiding-Over-Heaven-and-Earth.

     Different-Kinds-of-People     "FRAME":  affirmations,
issues,  questions,  descriptions,  debates,  discussions,
arguments,   analyses,   and  being-together in  terms  of
different: concepts, key-words, phrases, technologies, and
metaphors  which-make-sense-to-them in terms of their-own-
experiences.     Their "PICTURES"  look-different  to-them
because  of  their "DIFFERENT-FRAMES".   What-Is-Real  for
them is different because of their "DIFFERENT-FRAMES".

     What are some Different-Kinds-of-People:

     1.  Scientists,
     2.  Mathematicians,
     3.  Astronomers,
     4.  Astrologers,
     5.  Geographers,
     6.  Musicians,
     7.  Artists,
     8.  Dancers,
     9.  Capitalists,
    10.  Socialists,
    11.  Communists,
    12.  Fundamentalists,
    13.  Muslims,
    14.  Christians,
    15.  Jews,
    16.  Zionists,
    17.  Buddhists,
    18.  Militarists,
    19.  Pacifists,
    20.  Peacemakers,
    21.  Strict-Fathers,
    22.  Nurturing-Parents,
    23.  Diplomats,
    24.  Children,
    25.  Computer-Experts,
    26.  Analysts,
    27.  Synthesists,
    28.  Healers,
    29.  Reconcilers,
    30.  Alienators,
    31.  Excommunicators,
    32.  Loners,
    33.  Lawyers,
    34.  Soldiers,
    35.  Commanders,
    36.  Generals,
    37.  Presidents,
    38.  Dictators,
    39.  Emperors.

     They differ in how they "FRAME" everything which they
experience, see, do, hear, describe, understand, hope-for,
expect,   etc.    Into  what  FRAME-WORK  do  they   place
everything  which they deal with?    What are the natural-
consequences  of the FRAME-WORKS within which  they  work?
What kinds of communities do they create?  Destroy?  Heal?

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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