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 %LEVEL INTIMACY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP DISCERN KIND 050304
 %KNOW COMPLEMENTARY PARTIAL TRUTHS DEFENSE OFFENSE 050304
%UNILATERAL COOPERATE COURTSHIP EXCLUSIVE INCLUSIVE 050304
%RESENT ANGER SUSPICION SECRECY PRETEND THREAT EVIL 050304
%ATTACK CONTEST WIN LOSE PHYSICAL VIOLENCE OBJECTED 050304
%COMMAND DEMAND DISTRIBUTIVE JUSTICE CONSTRAINT GOD 050304
      
           The  level of intimacy in a personal relationship may
      be  discerned by discerning what kinds of defenses  and/or
      manners   of  offense  have  been  let-go;   unilaterally,
      cooperatively, in court-ship, etc.
      
           1.  There is no true-intimacy when a relationships is
      characterized by mutual:
      
               resentment,     anger,     suspicion,    secrecy,
      pretentiousness,   threats,  attacks,   physical-violence,
      psychological-violence, commands,  distributive-injustice,
      constraints,  prohibitions,  demands, prescriptions, impo-
      sitions, etc.
      
           2.  True-intimacy  begins-to-become-possible
      
               only to the  extent  that  some  people  begin to
      consider   how  un-satisfactory/intolerable   their   past
      domineering-relations have been;  and
      
               some people  start  to  try  to envision/dream-of
      alternative ways  of relating to each  other in ways which
      entail some moderate/cautious kinds of:
      
               cooperation,  collaboration, dialogue, mutuality,
      courtship,  sharing,  openness, dialogue,  being-together,
      honesty, listening, kindness, hospitality, trust, balance,
      mutuality, etc.
      
           3.  True-intimacy continues-to-evolve only so-long-as
      
               participants strive-together  to  increase  their
      own  and  each  other's levels of balance and mutuality in
      regards to:
      
               cooperation,  collaboration, dialogue, mutuality,
      courtship,  sharing,  openness, dialogue,  being-together,
      honesty, listening, kindness, hospitality, trust, balance,
      mutuality, etc.
      
           4.  The  evolution  of true-intimacy is  set-back by
      thoughts, desires, decisions and actions which entail:
      
               arrogance,  egotism,  narcissism,  greed, hubris,
      self-righteousness,  unilateralisms,  exclusive-absolutes,
      prejudicial-judgments,  incoherent-bias,  excommunication,
      total-independence,  isolations,  rejections,  exclusions,
      domination, technocracies,  military-industrial-complexes,
      etc.
      
          5.    The evolution of true-intimacy is threatened  by
      ignorance-of   and/or   dishonesty-about:   risks,   risk-
      management,   distributive-injustice,  imbalances,  power-
      concentrations,       wealth-concentrations,       energy-
      concentrations,   explosives,   bombs,   guns,  explosive-
      situations,  instabilities,     manipulative-technologies,
      natural-consequences,   personally-contrived-consequences,
      possibilities, impossibilities, systems-analysis, natural-
      laws, honest-descriptions, etc.
      
                               (c) 2004 by Paul A. Smith in
                            "Search for Honesty and Integrity"
                          (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy)
      
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