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 %GOSSIP VARIOUS FORMS ALIENATION EVIL RELATIONSHIP 041218
 %DISINTEGRATIVE CONSEQUENCES INTENTIONAL MALICIOUS 041218
%DISHONEST LIBEL DENIGRATION VULNERABLE VICTIM EVIL 041218
%IMPLICIT TACIT ACCUSATION INVITATION PRIVACY RIGHT 041218
%ACTIVE PASSIVE SPEAK WRITE CLEARLY EXPLICITLY LOVE 041218
%ACCUSATION RIGHT WRONG VICE VIRTUE AFFIRMATION SEX 041218

     In  the presence of domineering people and  operative
"Domination  Systems"  many people often underestimate the
disintegrative   consequences  of  the  various  forms  of
gossip.

     Gossip  may  be:   intentionally-malicious,   mildly-
malicious, an avoidance of actionable-libel,  an avoidance
of overt accusations,  an effort to be invulnerable  while
suggesting accusations,  and invitation to others to think
the worst of the victims of the gossip, etc.

     Gossip generates evil-relationships whenever it leads
to alienation, estrangement,  distrust,  anger, resentment
etc.    Idle  gossip  often  generates  evil-relationships
regardless of the intent of the gossips, both active and
passive.

     When people gossip and/or make accusations tacitly or
be innuendo it may be helpful to ask them to:

     1.  Speak more clearly and explicitly.

     2.  Be clearer about whom they are talking.

     3.  Be clearer about what particular people did.

     4.  Be clearer about what people have seen and heard.

     5.  Be clear about what virtues are absent.

     6.  Be clear about what vices are present.

     7.  Say who did what that is wrong or illegal.

     8.  Say what law or commandment has been violated.

     9.  Say what charges should be considered by a court.

    10.  Say what court should try the case at hand.

    11.  Be clear what due process calls for in the case.

    12.  Be clear about what mistake/blunder has occurred.

    13.  State clearly their concerns, fears, anxieties.

    14.  State clearly how they have been affected.

    15.  State when, where, how, & by whom harm was done.

    16.  State clearly what has been neglected/omitted.

    17.  State clearly what is wrongfully absent.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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