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 %PREREQUISITES SECURITY SHALOM HEALTH PEACE SHALOM 041014
%FOUNDATIONS PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY HEAVEN GOD 041014
%INVULNERABILITY KNOWLEDGE WHO GOOD DEVIL ALIENATED 041014
%ANGRY TRUST HONEST INTIMATE SEXUAL UNDERSTAND SINS 041014
%UNILATERAL DEMANDS COMMANDS PRESCRIPTION PROSCRIBE 041014
  %DEMONSTRATE GENEROSITY CIVILITY HOSPITALITY LOVE 041014

              WE CANNOT BE TRULY SECURE SO LONG AS:

 1.  We are angry with, and alienated from, each other.

 2.  We cannot trust, or be honest with, each other.

 3.  We do not understand each other's fears/anxieties.

 4.  We hide our fears and anxieties from each other.

 5.  We seek security in unilateral0-invulnerability.

 6.  We demand that each other do, what we have not done.

 7.  We demand that others be vulnerable, when we are not.

 8.  We refuse to take any risks to demonstrate true Love.

 9.  We refuse to be generous, when we have excess wealth.

10.  We refuse to share gifts which have been given to us.

11.  We expose others' vulnerabilities, but not our own.

12.  We try to teach via demands/commands, not examples.

13.  We refuse to love our most trustworthy neighbors.

14.  We refuse to cooperate with our best neighbors.

15.  We distrust people who are --- just a bit different.

16.  We fear admitting our mistakes, blunders & ignorance.

17.  We do not learn from mistakes, blunders & failures.

18.  We cannot demonstrate being both vulnerable & secure.

19.  We can never let others be both vulnerable & secure.

20.  We constantly try to be secure through domination.

21.  We seek security through the use of violence.

22.  We seek security through collecting WMDs.

23.  We seek security in using each other's vulnerability.

24.  We deliberately embarras each other to "get ahead".

25.  We pull each other down, to get "on top".

26.  We attack each other, rather than ever co-operate.

27.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in cooperation.

28.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in honesty.

29.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in intimacy.

30.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in sexuality.

31.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in security.

32.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in integrities.

33.  We fear the vulnerability inherent in integrations.

34.  We refuse to let others have our kind of "security".

35.  We dominate our best friends in seeking "security".

36.  We all play collusive games of mutual self deception.

37.  We refuse to let each other let-go of such games.

38.  We sacrifice others and our integrity to such games.

39.  We worship many idols we cannot have or control.

40.  We refuse to let-go of our disintegrative idols.

41.  We try to control what we regard as being ultimate.

42.  We don't see our disintegrations as sure-failures.

43.  We don't see that violence always threatens-security.

44.  We don't see that coercion often threatens-security.

45.  We don't see that greed always threatens-security.

46.  We don't see dishonesty always  threatening-security.

47.  We don't see deceptions always threatening-security.

48.  We don't see arrogance always threatening-security.

49.  We don't see self-righteousness threatening-security.

50.  We don't see different-people facilitating-security.

51.  We don't see evil/enemy people facilitating-security.

52.  We don't see reconciliation as a key to our-security.

53.  We don't see forgiveness as a key to our-security.

54.  We don't see cooperation as essential to-security.

55.  We don't see integrations as essential to-security.

56.  We don't see diversity as essential to our-security.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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