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 %HOW WHY DOMINEERING EVIL RELATIONSHIP EVOLVE GROW 040807
 %FEARFUL HARD WORK INVULNERAABLE SECURE SAFE SAVED 040807
 %SALVATION CONFORMITY LOYALTY FAITHFUL SERVANTS GO 040807
 %HUMILITY POOR ADDICTIVE CODEPENENT COLLUSION EVIL 040807
 %ALIENATED EXCOMMUNICATED SELF OTHER VICTIMS GOODS 040807
 %PERVERSE PSYCHOLOGY SPIRITUALITY RELIGIOUS GROUPS 040807

    How  and  why  is it that  domineering  relationships
evolve?

    A.  Fearful-people feel it is necessary to-work-hard

all-the-time to-be-INvulnerable == to-be-secure; i.e.,

        (1)  eqating security with INvulnerability;

        (2)  equating  INvulnerability with security;

        (3)  equating vulnerbility with INsecurity; AND

        (4)  equating INsecurity  with vulnerability.

    B.  Fearful-people  feel  as they do --- because they
have rarely,  if ever,  felt-secure; i.e.,  invulnerable;
for they  cannot imagine being both-secure-and-vulnerable
at the same moment --- never having seen/experiences such
an inconceivable combination.

    C.  Fearful-people thus feel that it is essential to-
be-dominant; i.e., to-be-unilaterally-in-control.

    D.  Consistent  with all of the above, fearful-people
avoid the vulnerabilities associated with:

         (1)  Cooperation and colaboration.

         (2)  Honesty and humility,

         (3)  Authenticity and openness,

         (4)  Generosity and hospitality,

         (5)  Civility and civilization,

         (6)  Intimacy and real-sexulity,

         (7)  Speaking Truth-to-Power-Assertively,

         (8)  Describing/exposing Domination-Systems,

         (9)  Describing/exposing True-Consequences,

        (10)  Describing/exposing Evil-Relationships.

    E.  Domineering-relationships-evolve     with     the
complicit-cooperation of weak-poor-vulnerable people  who
fear  not-going-along-with-dominerring-people.   It takes
a perverse-kind-of-cooperation   between  weak-and-strong
people  to  create  domineering-relationships  which  are
Evil-Relationships.     They  are  equally-involved   and
equally-guilty.

    F.  Fearful-people-go-along  with  DOMINEERING-PEOPLE
because  they HAVE-NOT-SEEN and CANNOT-IMAGINE  any-form-
of-RESISTANCE which is:   NON-violent,  NON-cercive, NON-
domineering,    NON-alienative,   NON-destructive,   NOT-
arrogant,    NOT-greedy,   NOT-narcissistic,    NOT-self-
righteous, etc.

    G.  Fearful-people do not act as peace-makers because
they fear-being-perceived-as:  weak,  foolish,  ignorant,
naieve, gullible, and vulnerable.

    7.  Other  fearful-people  seem unable to rise  above
viewing and treating vulnerable-people as means to  their
own unilaterally chosen/conceived ends;  usable, abusable
and discardable tools --- not as live beings with whom to
enter into truly-intimate-and-loving long-term-and-honest
relationships  which  entail vulnerability  in  essential
ways.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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