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%PRIVACY RIGHT RESPONSIBILITIES RESPONSIVE DIALOGUE 040620
%OPEN MARRIAGE FRIENDSHIPS OPEN HONESTY SECRECY SEX 040620
  %HOPES ASPIRATIONS DESIRES WISHES FEARS ANXIETIES 040620
%GUIDELINES ADVICE SUGGESTIONS BOUNDARIES PARADIGMS 040620
%SCRIPTS DRAMAS SCRIPTURES PARABLES COSMOLOGIES GOD 040620
  %ABSENCES MISSING YEARNING IMPOSSIBLE INTEGRITIES 040620

      Our most healthy  intimate and healthy relationships
evolve  naturally  through the cooperative efforts of  the
primary participants --- in the gracious-absence of:

      1.  Intrusions by domineering outsiders and gossips.
      2.  Preoccupations with such possible-intrusions.
      3.  Focusing upon formal-rules for any reasons.
      4.  Attempts to articulate formal-rules to follow.
      5.  Clearly defined-goals and procedural-plans.
      6.  Plans to be ready to justify-the-relationships.
      7.  Concerns on the part of outsiders about rules.
      8.  Permissions, approvals, pro-scriptions, laws.
      9.  Prescriptions, formalities, conformity, devils.
     10.  Mandatory rituals, precautions and scripts.
     11.  Attempts to be defensively in-vulnerable.
     12.  Fears that sanctuaries will be violated by some.
     13.  Preoccupations with "The-Domination-System".
     14.  Preoccupations with domineering-individuals.
     15.  Preoccupations with technocratic "solutions."

      The above kinds of gracious-absences are usually the
sweat  fruits of many gracious-people's  long-term-efforts
to  be  supportive of the essential foundations  for  both
personal and communal integrities and integrations.

                             Shalom

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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